- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2018
Some venting so you can tell me if I’m crazy. Wedding is in two weeks, and we still haven’t met our caterer (other than the first intro meeting back in March) to finalize details. She is ordering all the "extras" for us as we’re getting married under a tent in the country, not a traditional venue with everything on site, so there are a lot of things to order. She told us it’s easier for her that way.
In my attempt to confirm a final meeting since the beginning of August, she has been totally unresponsive for the past week. I know these guys are busy, but this started to panic me (see above, it’s not just about the food)! So when I email her on Monday to confirm a meeting this Friday (tomorrow), and had heard nothing by end of day yesterday, Wednesday, I followed up with a phone call. I did mention I was getting a bit stressed out (again, I’ve been asking for this meeting since the beginning of August), but my message wasn’t nasty at all.
She called me back and said:
Hello Bee, this is Me. I got your messageS PLURAL (yes she said this in one of those condescending, bitter tones said with a smile, you know the one). Don’t worry. Be cool. Maybe you should do some yoga and take some big, deep breaths. It’s all going to work out. I’m an EXTREMELY busy person, and I suck at returning messages. Anyway, Friday I need to be (out of town) so we’ll have to meet Saturday morning.
I don’t do the message justice. It was the smiley, bitter evil tone! But I am so annoyed because she IS stressing me out by being unresponsive— is is unreasonable to be concerned that you haven’t met the caterer who is basically ordering all the wedding stuff– until two weeks before the wedding?
It takes ONE MINUTE to return a call. And when we’re talking about the biggest expense of my wedding, and something so important…don’t tell me to do some yoga and take some deep breaths, be a professional and return my call and deal with your client, don’t tell me how to manage the stress you’re causing me!
Ah, the ventage. Thanks… now I’ll have to meet with her this weekend and be nice…it’s too late in the game for anything else Bees!
Am I over the top by thinking she’s out of line?