(Closed) is my center stone overwhelmed?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If you know you wouldn’t be changing it for another five years, I wouldn’t bring it up at the moment.  I guess it just seems to me like there’s no point until you’re getting close to your b day or the 5 year mark or whatever.  You know your Fiance better than we all do, but if it was mine, he’d be a little hurt.  I think it’s a beautiful ring btw! 

Post # 5
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think that your stone might be overwhelmed a little, not by the other diamonds but by the width of the band. If  you don’t want to offend your Fiance and you don’t want to change it right away, I would just sit tight and wait a little. In a few months, or a year, you might have a totally different opinion. Plus, once you start wearing your engagement ring and wedding band together, it will have a totally different look. You might love the look of all of the diamonds together once you are wearing both all of the time.

Also, unless you have that *ONE RING* that you have fallen in love with, I think it is normal to have a wandering eye when it comes to rings! 🙂 I have a super classic round cut setting, and every once in a while I’ll see an asher cut diamond, or a square cut with pave diamonds around it that I think are gorgeous!


Post # 6
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

The views from the top down do make it look overwhelmed- as in, the stone doesn’t stand out because the rest of the setting is just as wide.  However, from the side view you showed, the center stone is obviously set higher than the rest.  So I’m not sure if I can say yes or no based on those few images.

That said- I think it’s pretty clear you are unhappy with it.  I personallly spent a lot of time researching before choosing what I wanted because it was really important to me that I would wear that EXACT ring for the rest of my life.  I’m too sentimental for the upgrade!

Have you considered just upgrading the center stone?  When you have the money, can you exchange the stone for a larger one that wouldn’t be overwhelmed?

Sorry I didn’t really give a straight answer.  It’s a really tough situation.

Post # 8
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the width factor.  But it’s a lovely ring.  Again, not something that needs to immediately change.  The width being the same as the solitaires’s width is what does make that appear to be so. 

Rosy’s got a good point..how about for an anniversary the stone upgrade to something either a different style or longer/width different?

Post # 10
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I also think the width factor is a problem, but from those photos it’s a bit hard to tell.  I’m so sorry this is happening to you because the same thing with the ring high wore off and my hubby said he would ABSOLUTELY NOT let me change a thing, so I’m hoping you’ll have better luck!

Post # 11
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I don’t think your center stone is overwhelmed, but it does have company. 🙂 If that  makes sense. From the third picture though it definitely looks like the center stone stands out because it is set higher. I am guessing that shows up better in three-dimensional real life than in pictures. It is probably not as "flat" as you imagine.

My ring "high" also has worn off and now I can think of several other styles that I would love. But it’s too late now, as it’s the ring I’ve got and my husband would be really, really upset if I wanted to change it (as I discovered when I also put out "feelers" once).

But really, you gotta admit, if our big problem is that our diamond engagement rings aren’t exactly the style we wanted in the end, really, this is a good problem to have, right? 😀 Plus, you will have the ring for a long time. You taste may change over time, in any direction. Even if you got a different style now, in a few years you may decide that what you have now is really what you want! Your ring is a different style from the quintessential solitaire on a plain band, but just because that’s what’s in style now doesn’t mean that’s what will be in forever or what we will all like forever. 

If diamonds are a girl’s best friend, then your center stone has lots of good friends but ultimately I don’t think they overshadow too much. Your ring is beautiful!

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