Post # 1
I haven’t been on in forever but I am soooo glad to be back! I’ve been in the hospital for the past 7 months, recovering from a very aggressive cancer…I’m happy to say that I’m currently in a rehab, getting much better and I go home in 2 and a half weeks! Since I’ll be going home quite soon and getting married in less than 10 months, I decided to get a head start on the wedding planning. My uncle got ordained online and will be performing our ceremony for us so I took the time to write it. Below is the outline for it. My only concern is that I have too much going on for a “quick” ceremony and I don’t want my guests to get bored, but I can’t imagine taking anything out! What do you think, bees? Does it seem pretty normal or should I rethink it??
Seating of Grandmothers
Seating of Mothers
Wedding Party Processional
Acknowledgement of Loved Ones
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
Pronouncement of Marriage
What do y’all think??
Post # 3
@MissThespian: I think ceremonies can have many parts as long as they all keep moving. Just don’t let only one part drone on, especially things like the opening words and closing words where the officiant gets to write his own stuff.
Post # 4
It seems long on paper but how long will each part take? What is the total time? Maybe time yourself running through it.
Post # 5
Well, the script is 3 pages long and oh…I didnt realize the officiant was in charge of writing the opening and closing words…I wrote them already! Haha
I will have to figure out the length somehow…maybe read through it with FI? I would say each part is about 1-2 minutes long…
Post # 6
It may seem on the longer side, but its not a full mass. I say keep it as is.
And now for some compleatly unsolicited advice: Depending on how you are doing your handfasting, you really may want to swich around the ring exchange and the handfasting. As putting on rings while you are tied together will prove difficult. Ie: Reading, Exchange of Vows, Exchange of Rings, Song, Handfasting Ceremony. Or something along those lines. But if your planning on removing the cords immeditatly after the handfasting it won’t be an issue. Just something to think about.
Edit to add: the officiant doesn’t have to come up with the opening and closing. You can write your own. 🙂
Post # 7
Not too long. I’m actually not a fan of super quick ceremonies. I feel like its the most important part of the day and it should feel like it has gravitas and history and stuff. So many 10-15 minute ceremonies recently have left me with a ‘was that it’ feeling.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice 🙂 I actually thought about that so we decided to remove the ribbons immediately after that portion! Great minds think alike I guess! Haha
Oh, I know what you mean! I wanted our ceremony to be as meaningful as possible…after all, it’s only going to happen once (hopefully) so we better make it as special as possible! Thanks for the advice! 🙂
Post # 9
THIS! THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS!
Dear Lord, it’s a wedding with a reception, not a reception with a wedding. Short ceremonies tick me off more than long ones. It’s like then you don’t even really care about the committment you’re making, you just want an excuse to party… (No offense to any brides that have short ceremonies. It just irks me when I go out of my way to attend a ceremony and it lasts a grand total of ten minutes. Like, what’s the point of having one?)
OP, I’m used to full on mass weddings. Your program doesn’t too long at all.