(Closed) Is my co worker intrested in me or i am just reading too much into this……..

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t see the harm in asking him for coffee or dinner after work sometime? 

Post # 17
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why lie and tell someone you are engaged?  what if everyone know thinks you’re engaged?



Post # 18
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

barnes66:  Doesn’t really sound like he’s interested to me. Also, I think you sort of messed up your chances to date at work when you told someone you work with that you have a fiance.

Post # 21
2255 posts
Buzzing bee

It kind of just sounds like he’s being friendly, not necessarily romantically interested. But if you’re interested in him, why not ask him for coffee or drinks? 

Post # 22
964 posts
Busy bee

That was year ago and the guy who I turned doen no longer work for our company. This guy that I have crush on got hired long after the first guy left.He knows nothing about me and the other guy I turned down.It was between him and I

But the guy you turned down might have told other co-workers that you are engaged to someone. Other co-workers who still work there. That lie could get passed on over and over again. You can’t just lie lie lie to solve your problems. It will make bigger problems for you. And people really do not appreciate being lied to. And doing it to your co-workers at your workplace looks really bad for you.

Post # 23
2733 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

barnes66:  To those who are saying he is not interested, why do you think so? Is it because he hasn’t asked me out?

Yes. As others have said, if a guy is into you, he will ask you out. Unless this is middle school or he has some painfully awkward/shy social anxiety disorder. Which he doesn’t seem to have since he does have normal conversations with you. Noticing makeup and asking if you went a club the night before (odd way to phrase it?) does not equate to interest. Had he said something along the lines of “wow you look really pretty today” would be another story. It sounds to me like he is just making small talk.

As others have suggested, you can always ask him out and that will give you your answer. Not to be mean or condescending but you sound very young or immature or inexperienced in the dating department. Have you had previous relationships? If so, look for clues in him that you noticed in your previous partners before getting together. Also, it is very immature to lie to a coworker about having a fiance because you aren’t interested. That may fly at a bar with some creep hitting on you, a quick fix to get him away. But if it’s someone you regularly interact with, it’s the mature and respectful thing to do to be honest with someone. Would you want this new guy telling you he has a fiancee if you were to ask him out? And then find out he really doesn’t? Or would you rather him politely tell you from the start that he just isnt interested?


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