(Closed) Is my cousins wife totally out of line?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@pollyphonetic:  I think she’s being nuts.  Do you think the rest of your family will agree?  If so, I’d let her show her true colors and carry on.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

SHE is CRAY CRAY….

I vote .. punch her.

sigh ok i know you aren’t supposed to encourage that .. but seriously HOW MANY DAYS DOES SHE GET ….

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Holy crap, what a psycho! I don’t really know what to say except I’m sorry.

It’s a VOW RENEWAL. That should not trump your actual wedding.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

some body drank the crazy juice and its NOT YOU1. i would just let her be and hope your family choses your wedding to go to and not theirs..

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Since you weren’t inviting them or the other aunts/uncles/cousins anyway, it sounds like the only people who have a conflict are your grandparents. I think a far better strategy is talk to your grandparents and try to get them to attend yours, since (a) you booked first, and (b) I assume they attended your cousin’s actual wedding.

I wouldn’t bother with your aunt because I suspect she’ll side with her son and daughter-in-law. I don’t mean to sound harsh but I don’t see the point of asking them to change for an event they’re not invited to.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

if its a vow renewal why would you need a bridal party- have ur own children in the freaking wedding not some cousin…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I know alot of people who need a good punch in the face. It seems like your cousins wife would be one of them. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@hma812:  with a chair.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A wedding is much more important than a vow renewal. I would ignore her as much as possible. People who you invite will come to your wedding over hers.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow… I’m speechless. What amazingly selfish person. It’s actually very sad, considering that she has kids.

 

Ok, so I guess that you can’t change your wedding day now – but is there anyway you can make arrangements so that your family doesn’t end up being torn between you both (i.e. they have a noon affair, you an evening)? I primarily think about your grandparents that must be an awful situation for them!

 

I shouldn’t say, but hope they break up again at least a little so that the renewal thing is off for a while!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

O_O gosh.

Uhm, is she actually doing this to try and steal your wedding?

I would mention to your grandparents that it would mean a lot to you to have them there, in a non pressurey way, but so they know that you do actually want them there.

Would it not be best (and this is a little childish I know…) to just have a super awesome wedding, make sure everyone knows how awesome it will be, and have her have a vow renewal with no one there?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@pollyphonetic:  That’s good.  I have the feeling your grandparents will of course do the right thing.  More importantly, I wouldn’t engage this woman in an argument.  You absolutely cannot argue with crazy.  

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