(Closed) Is my daytime wedding really such a crazy idea?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t let her get into your head.  Evening weddings are a relatively new concept.  For hundreds of years, weddings have taken place in the daytime followed by a more simple reception.  Evenings full of DJs, uplighting, etc, are becoming more common as the industry grows, but they weren’t popular even when your mom was younger.

Your wedding will be just as fun as any other and you’re going to love it, so don’t let her make you second guess yourself.  When my mom got critical of all of our ideas, I kept telling her she can have a vow renewal for herself and do whatever she wants.  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your Mom is being ridiculous. However when you do things that people consider outside of the norm, they may freak a little. I been in weddings that are starting at four or five and been there the night before or very early in the morning. I only been to one daytime wedding and I loved it! She did a brunch with lowkey music. Her ceremony was at 11 also, and I home by 5:30 while most weddings are at night I don’t think anyone going to mind.

I think you need to have a talk with mom, tell her this is your choice, you took everything she said into consideration, and ask her to support you and drop the subject. After that the next time Mom brings it have a firm statement ready. “Mom we already talk about this, lets move on” and no matter what she says repeat this and refuse to engage in any converstaion about it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I think it sounds like a fabulous plan. One question, though. Is your mom paying for any of it? If so, you may have to be more flexible.

If not, you may have to get to the point with her where you just say “This is what we’re doing and I would appreciate it if you’d stop complaining about it. Just stop”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Whenever you do something a little different from the normal, some people will freak out on you. Your wedding sounds really nice. With a day wedding, you probably will have less drinking and dancing, but it sounds like you’ve already taken that into account. I think you should just tell you mom that you know she’s concerned but this is what you want and it’s not up for discussion. Hopefully once she realizes you’re not changing your mind, she will stop complaining.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I think your daytime wedding plans are great!  I laughed at your comebacks to your mom about her complaints regarding hair and leaving guests to find their own dinner (I was thinking exactly what you wrote and cracked up).  She seriously needs to get over it.  Your guests will be there because they love you and want to see you on your special day getting married to your love.  If they get bored at the reception, that is not your fault.  It sounds like you have good activities planned too.  I wouldn’t worry about it.  The party bus idea is fantastic!  

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had an afternoon reception for my first wedding. It wasn’t for the same reason (both my parents are alcoholics and I didn’t want to deal with the hassle of trying to keep them sober, plus my in laws were non-drinkers and quite religious ) but it worked well and everyone had a good time.

We didn’t even do lunch as the ceremony was after lunch. We had more of an afternoon tea menu with no alcohol and lots of hors d’oevres.

People did what they wanted for dinner in smaller groups.

My parents hosted a party at their home in the evening for the drinkers, and the in -laws hosted a social at their hotel suite after dinner for their family.

I think our parents tend to judge our wedding plans by comparing them to what was acceptable when they got married.. Most parents have not been to a wedding or particpated in planning one until their own children reach that age.

Remember, Randy from SYTTD says that if you are mature enough to get married, you are mature enough to have the wedding you want.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@HeyKaraoke:  I think day weddings can absolutely be fun!!! I actually really considered it because lunch is my favorite meal of the day and I thought I could do a lot of fun things with the menu. I’m also not doing dancing and ipod and that definitely fits in more with an afternoon affair!

I think it’ll be great.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Your wedding sounds awesome! Don’t listen to the critics on it. Daytime weddings are great.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s a great idea as long as its a Saturday or Sunday. I went to an 11am Monday wedding and there were A LOT of empty spots. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’ll be fine! We had an afternoon ceremony that started at 11, too. Not going to lie, getting ready is a bit hectic, but it’s not the end of the world! We took a couple hours after the wedding for a little R&R, and then we went to our afterparty, which was so much fun. I loved our timeline, I wouldn’t change how it was for anything!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

sounds good to me! in the uk, most wedding ceremonies are around lunchtime/early afternoon and the receptions usually go on until late at night. so i dont think you need to worry about your guests getting bored in 4/5 hours! iv spent 12 hours at one wedding and it was a great day, but an early finish like yours would’ve actually been nice, i get tired lol 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had a morning wedding followed by brunch and LOVED it.  Everyone else loved it too.  Our ceremony was at 10:30 followed by a champagne brunch.  No dancing, no DJ, none of that.  We did do toasts and cake cutting.  

We had it at a VERY swanky hotel that we never, ever would have been able to afford for dinner.  Plus we’re not dancing type people.  We had an outdoor terrace for people to use as well as the ballroom space, and it was really great.  

Hair and makeup started at 5 a.m. but honestly on that day I didn’t mind.  I was awake early because I was getting married!!!  

The best part was that everything was totally over by 4:00.  We went up to our suite and took a nap!  Then we had the evening to relax and order room service before getting up early the next morning for our honeymoon.  

Guests who came from out of town came in on Friday and left Saturday after the wedding, so I think it worked well for everyone.  

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, and you should remind your mom that Will and Kate had a morning wedding 🙂

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