Is my engagement ring diamond small…

posted 12 months ago in Engagement
Post # 46
45 posts
  • Wedding: Agoura, California

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@Amani2:  Your ring is absolutely beautiful! Just give yourself some time to get comfortable with it.

Post # 47
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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@Amani2:  yes, it is definitely on the small side, sorry babe, I went through a similar process of indecision, on style not size, but trust me, it won’t go away, hope you can upgrade soon

Post # 48
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 1996

You have a lovely ring.  I think the problem is that expectations are just way too high these days.  Back in the “olden days” a 59-point diamond would have been much larger than what most other women had.  Society and the media are always messing with our heads, trying to get us to think that we constantly have to “upgrade” everything.  In fact, I’m really sick of that word “upgrade”.  If we would all just love what we have, we would be a lot happier.

Is your ring small compared to Gwen Stefani’s engagement ring?  Sure!  But her fiance is worth multimillions of dollars.  Who cares?  I don’t!

You have an absolutely beautiful ring.

Post # 49
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Tennessee

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👏👏👏 yes!!!!! 

Post # 50
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

When I got engaged 21 years ago a .50 carat was considered a bigger stone, unfortunately it isn’t today. I always had my heart set on a full one carat stone, but we went with quality over size. My fingers are very short so that size stone looks good on my hand. I will say that even though it was smaller then what I had wanted, I loved it for many years until I started to feel shrinkage. If you are having doubts this early, you may never get over it. If you don’t love it because you are concerned about what society will think, I wouldn’t let that bother me. You have to decide what makes you happy and your ring is beautiful and looks great on your hand.

Post # 51
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

That’s big compared to the European average!! (I think!). Isn’t it better to have a smaller, better quality diamond than larger not so good quality? 

Post # 53
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Texas

Your ring is.beautiful. <3

Post # 54
73 posts
Worker bee

Can you get a larger moissy stand in on days you feel like wearing larger bling? I don’t think it’s wise to spend a lot of money right now on frivolous items as things are so uncertain. 

your ring is very beautiful and fitting on your hand. 

Post # 55
5460 posts
Bee Keeper

Back in the day, a .59 stone was quite average, size-wise. But the advent of social media and breathless coverage of stars engagement rings has upped the ante where diamonds are concerned.



Post # 56
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2022

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@Amani2:  when I read the title of your thread I thought omg…how bad is it….But your ring is very very pretty.  I don’t think its “too small”.  If you still feel that way, you could

a) get it re-set with a halo;

b) get a pave wedding band that will just add sparkle to your ring finger–Its very acceptable these days to get chunkier or statemet weding bands that dont necessarily “match” your ring;

c) replace the stone.  I honestly don’t recommend the last option, unless you both paid for the ring.  Men can get very hurt by feeling like they were inadequate in some way when it comes to engagement rings & proposals (I learned that the hard way by commenting on what was “missing” from my proposal).  

Best of luck, bee!

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