(Closed) Is my engagement ring too small? =S

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 152
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

If you love your ring, that really is all that matters, as so many other bees have said. My ring is similarly sized to yours. Fiance originally wanted to go larger with a thicker band, but when I tried something like that on, it did not look right on my little hands (I buy my gloves in the girls/juniors section.) I love my ring and think it works really nicely on my hand. Occassionally, I get bigger, multiple diamond envy. My antidote to that is to go get my ring cleaned, so I can appreciate it in all of its beautiful sparkle!

Post # 153
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ok this post has me feeling like everyone is thinking my ring is too small, awesome!

 

not that i really care but yeah this post makes me think a lot of people are judging those of us with rings smaller than .5 a carat!

Post # 154
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

snake – my center is only .25!! lol.. so don’t worry, your’s is def not too small!!! i picked at setting that make’s my center look bigger than it really is.. lol!!! my whole set (e-ring and wedding band) is less than .75.. but we were also able to pay cash cause we got a great deal and didn’t go into debt over some stone.. i mean really it is just a stone! lol, one of those thing- if you got it, flaunt it.. and by it, i mean a fantastic FH that loves you enough to anounce to the world that he loves you by asking you to marry him, who gives a ‘s’ what the ring looks like, everyone has different oppinions. speaking of, if anyone should feel their rock is too small.. mine is smaller.. lol!!

Post # 156
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Here are pictures of my e-ring and band together! I am now Mrs. Jeffrey Lynn Statzer! My band has channel set diamonds half way around and it looks great with my e-ring!

Post # 157
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

im sorry, but your mom’s friend is effed up. period. Its not about the size of the damn ring (I wouldnt have cared if my Fiance wrapped a red string around my finger, I just wanted to marry him already!!) I think its effed up that she is pushing HER INSECURITIES about diamond size onto you…..feel comfortable and love the fact that your Fiance loves you so much, he wants to make you his wife!!!!! 🙂

Post # 158
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s all relative. I have a .71 center stone with a pave setting that adds up to nearly 1 carat. I’m sure some people think it is on the small side, but thankfully no one has said that to me. I have had plenty of people say, “Oh, what a rock!” One of my bridesmaids thinks my ring is huge compared to the “dainty” rings she’s seen on her friends at church.

I can’t get caught up in what other people think of my ring. I love it. That’s all there is to it! Your ring is beautiful and if you love it, that’s all that matters.

By the way, I don’t understand the two months salary thing. For Fiance to spend two months salary on my ring, it would have taken a long time for him to save that up! People have to use their salaries to pay their bills, hello! My ring is about one month’s salary for him and that was a big financial commitment. I think the two months salary thing is just a way for the jewelry industry to guilt people into spending more money.

Post # 159
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i told my Fiance I didn’t want anything bigger than .5 carat because i have very small, delicate hands and I personally think a larger stone looks overwhelming on my hands.  Plus i’m a geologist and i work both in a lab and doing field research, so having a large stone wasn’t practical.  I love my stone and its the perfect one for me.  Size doesn’t really matter – what matters is what it represents between you and your Fiance and that YOU love it.

Post # 161
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

kristij –  i love your ring, i’m actually having some gemstone jealousy!! lol

Post # 162
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That is NOT small.  It’s all a comparison issue. I have a one carat ring and my mom referred to it as “a huge rock”.  Then I went and saw my friend who got engaged and she had 1.25 carat ring.  Only slightly bigger, but I left her house wondering about an upgrade.  The truth of the matter is, my ring is beautiful and the diamond is stunning.  I don’t know how much he paid for it, but it’s an excellent cut and it’s colorless.  I’m pretty sure we could have gotten an “average” cut and color 1.5 carat diamond for the same price, but I don’t like bigger stones that aren’t sparkly.  

Diamonds are a personal thing.  Everyone has different budgets and preferences.  Don’t stress too much about it.  Very few women have those 2+ carat stunners that turn heads.

Post # 163
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I see other women with HUGE monstrosities on their hand.  It makes me wonder what they and their spouses are trying to compensate for.  I too, have a princess cut diamond, .98 carat. It is rather large for me.  Coming from an older bride, my FH could afford a MUCH larger ring.  My love is not in the ring, although I truly love it, it’s in him. 

Post # 164
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Blushing bee

@PrincessPeachy:  Just to be clear, what is your definition of a *huge monstrosity*?  Some stones appear larger/smaller than what they truly are due to many factors, i.e., cut (ratios) and ring size of the wearer. 

What is your basis(es) for assumming that a couple is trying to compensate for something simply because the engagement ring has a large(r) stone? 

Post # 165
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it’s better to have a smaller stone which is better quality…and for your Fiance not to be in huge amounts of debt to buy you a large expensive stone. It’s really about the love that went into choosing the ring. Mine is not a diamond but a sapphire – which is exactly what i wanted and i was over the moon that Fiance knew me so well when picking it that he knew that and didn’t cave in to ‘tradition’ and having a huge diamond.

Post # 166
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

People forget to consider the quality of the diamond.  You could have a 1.5 carat and it be cloudy as all hell.  I like knowing that my ring is high quality and colorless!  Don’t forget the other c’s.  Color, cut, clarity.  It ain’t all about the size.

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