Post # 1
My Fiance has never been the jealouse type.. but recently he has turned into someone i dont even know and all we are doing is arguing.
For starters he doesnt let me have guy freinds on f.b ..okay i respect that becuase he doesnt even have a f.b and he wouldent add girls as well even if he had one. But just this week he made the biggest deal of me having someone (male) that i consider as a cousin and hes younger then me (2 years yunger). He got pretty mad about that.
We also got into a fight becuase i was smiling (polietly ) to the ticket booth person in the movies and answered a question he asked about a movie. Fiance was walking towards us when we were talking & looked like flirting but wasnt . BUt still..
I just dont no why hes acting like this.
Ladies have your SO’s acted up or began getting jealouse and such after getting engaged? becuase i dont get it.. he was never like this.
Post # 3
This is a gigantic red flag, and you need to address it ASAP. This kind of jealousy is not normal or okay. It’s a controlling behavior that will likely lead to full-on emotional abuse.
Post # 4
@Mrs Grape: :'((((( dont say thattt. AGgg.. i tried talking to him and its just soo hard to get through him. like He was NEVERRR like this 4 years going to 5 and never has he behaved like this.
Post # 5
@chesseplease: What did you say, and how did he respond?
Post # 6
@chesseplease: I would be really really concerned about this if I were you. This controlling behavior is not normal. Hes jealous over a guy that you view as a little brother? Really? Could he be projecting his insecurities on you? Because peoples behaviors dont change 180 degrees just because you are engaged. How old are you two? Given the little bit of information he seems really immature. Without additional information though, I would say seek therapy or put your foot down and find out why he is acting this way.
Post # 7
@Mrs Grape: I agree. This is NOT normal.
You need to ask him what’s going on. Are these the only two incidents? Everyone has bad days. But if this is a pattern, you need to seek counseling. How long have you been together?
Post # 8
A man can be “strict” with his children, not his wife.
Post # 9
@UpstateCait: Exactly. If I ever started to describe my fiance as “strict” I’d run and never look back..
Post # 10
he can’t tell you who to be friends with. By deleting guys off your facebook, you told him he can tell you what to do and you’ll do it.
It’s not ok. You are your own person. Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. Don’t let him push you around now, it’ll only get worse when your married.
Post # 11
I told him that the boy is nothing to me and responded with ” YOu told me you didnt have any boys on your f.b you lied and there is no reason to have him on your f.b looking at your busness, hes not your real family member”.
He thinks i am extreamly nice to people and guys. ( f.y.i I do not flirt or anything but im not mean). he says he trusts me but no everyone else and that scares him.
He does not think hes wrong for acting the way he did, no matter what i say.
I tried putting my foot down, yelled, explained, and know im just ignoring him becuase its such a BIG turn off for me.
Post # 12
Ok… this is just no good. Is this really out of the blue, honestly? Or is it just recently getting more intense? This is how abusers start, they isolate their SO from friends and family. You’re not a piece of property, and he really has no business telling you who you can and cannot speak to.
Is he guilty about something, or doing something shady that is making him super paranoid about you?
Post # 13
@chesseplease: You need to establish boundaries–you have the RIGHT to be friends with whoever the hell you please, and as long as the friendship doesn’t start to become inappropriate (most of them don’t–it’s totally possible for a man and woman to be JUST friends), he needs to step off.
That he doesn’t see anything wrong with his behavior is a bad, bad sign.
Post # 13
This is a HUGE red flag. Not olny is it a warning sign for potential abuse, but also a red flag for infidelity.
Marriage is a partnership not a dictatorship. Don’t let him push you around now, it’ll only get worse when your married.—- Also this.
Post # 14
No. And if my Darling Husband had, I would be seriously questioning what I had gotten myself into. His behaviour of jealousy and control is not cool.
Post # 15
After we got engaged, my fiance got more loving, our bond grew even deeper, and we became more comfortable and secure with each other than ever before. All positive things.
Your fiances behavior is not acceptable, like, at all. Would you put up with that shit if you were just dating? I doubt it. So most definitely don’t put up with it now. When people show you who they really are, believe them. Address this ASAP!