(Closed) Is my fiancé crazy for thinking this??

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think you’ll lose your date at that venue if you don’t put a deposit down within a week.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I don’t think she’s being shady. Think about how many people there are who are planning to get married. Now think about how many of these days are probably available with a high likelihood that people want to have a wedding on a weekend day..

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it really matters. If you’re worried about someone taking the date then see it asap and put a deposit down. I absolutely would not put any money down until I saw the venue though. Don’t worry about if she’s being shady and just go see the venue. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

Is she a wedding coordinator or the venue manager/coordinator?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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lovelyberylbee6 :  I doubt it is a ploy to get you to put money down. If that’s the case, I’m sure they would have no problem saying, “We can’t reserve anything until you put a deposit down” as most venues will tell you. There are tons of people getting married everyday, so dates get taken fast. I found this out when looking for a DJ in my area. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I don’t think she would lie to you, because most people are very sentimental about their date, and might simply choose another venue if their special day is taken. She wouldn’t want to lose your business! I’d say if you love it, book it 🙂

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Agree with pp’s.  What are the odds that you’re the only person in your area who had the brilliant idea of booking a venue a year early – when basically every wedding website and book recommends you book a year out?  It would be much easier on them to just require a deposit upfront (like most venues do) than play a cat and mouse game where they’ll let you hold it for free and then chase you down and give you a week if someone else just happens to also express interest just so they have the opportunity to pressure you into making a deposit they could have just required you to do in the first place?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

If you cant go together, go separately and discuss after. I wouldn’t want to put money down without seeing it, but I also wouldn’t want to lose the date. I wouldn’t think shes lying, that seems like so much work instead of just saying they don’t reserve without a deposit.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think its for real but even if it isnt are you willing to risk losing your date? 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Our wedding is 2/17/18 and we already gave our deposit. Most of these venues get booked a year in advance. Plus February is a popular wedding month. I’m sure she is being honest. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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lovelyberylbee6 :  It doesn’t really matter whether or not it’s a tactic. If you want the peace of mind of having a secure date at that venue, make time to visit and pay the deposit. Affordable venues get booked very quickly.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Any place I looked at wanted a deposit before they would reserve, so I don’t see why she would come up with a “scheme” that is more involved than saying we need a deposit now.

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