is my fiancée's ring JUST for police officers? Sorta crushed.

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m really really surprised at the amount of people who have never heard of this. I don’t know anyone in law enforcement at all, but this is a really well known thing. It’s not new.

I would honestly be more concerned about him becoming a target. There’s a lot of controversy over it in some areas.

Post # 47
Hostess
9694 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

Ironically the documentary “The Thin Blue Line” shows how policework got sloppy and they put the wrong guy behind bars (sentenced to death, none-the-less), while a killer walked the streets and continued to commit crimes for like 10-20 more years. It makes me laugh everytime I see they have adopted this as their “symbol.” 

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

justyourbasicpumpkinluvr :  Thin blue line = support for police officers and their families. We have a thin blue line flag at our house. My Fiance is a future LEO but even if he wasnt, I would still proudly fly that flag in support of officers. Your Fiance can wear that if that is what he wants. Not specifically for LEO’s.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee

My husband is a police officer so I’m very familiar with the “thin blue line”. If I saw someone wearing this ring, I’d assume they were a police officer too. Generally around here, I see people wearing thin blue line tshirts, but those support a specific officer killed in the line of duty, or police support overall. I agree with what a PP said, he’d probably have to keep telling people that ask he’s not a police officer. 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee

Westwood :  Agreed. I am also shocked by the amount of people who haven’t heard of this. Good news is people know now. 🙂

Post # 51
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Helper bee

FutureDrAtkins :  It is the other way around, the documentary adopted the name from the existing police custom. “thin blue line” goes back a long time before that to mourn fallen police. the movie had to do with the murder of a police, that’s why they used it for the title. 

Westwood :  i am concerned now too, to be a target. I am not being rationale maybe, but look at what happened this morning in my city. My fiance always has his gun, so if someone found him to be a police and wanted to hurt him he can deal with them. But what if you are not a police and don’t have a gun but have this thing that says you might be a police. My fiance says never have your badge without your gun. Always the two together or better to have neither.  

Post # 52
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2016 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

i say if he likes it keep it, i get the whole thin blue line meaning, but i dont think the police own a color combo….. black and blue it a pretty common thing for men in general. 

unless you and your Fiance have a lot of cop friends, i cant imagine most people immediately thinking about the police seeing it. And to be honest i cant think of a lot of men who walk around flashing their wedding band around like women tend to do. 

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

My brother is a cop. My best friend’s Darling Husband is a cop. I am familiar with the thin blue line only because of them. I say keep the ring unless he’s against the whole blue lives matter movement. 

Post # 54
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Worker bee

My fiance’ actually is a police officer and yes I would assume your fiance’ was one too based on his ring. HOWEVER, I am in the minority. Most people don’t recognize the “symbol” unless they are some how affiliated with a LEO. I think if you both love it, what diffence does it make? Might even get you guys out of a few tickets lol!

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

tommywantwingy :  Can you be supportive of (good) cops without approving of the Blue Lives Matter movement? I actually hadn’t heard that name until today and frankly it makes me want to barf. Way to erase an entire movement (Black Lives Matter) who have genuinely been targeted and killed by overly aggressive police. I don’t see anything wrong with the thin blue line and what it stands for. I’m very grateful to the good people who put their lives on the line every day. But appropriating a movement’s name when they have genuine concerns about racial profiling by the police seems immature, reactionary, and I’m gonna say it – racist af.

Also, I know nobody is going to get woke in a ring thread, but wow, that just floored me.

So I guess, in answer to the OP, if the thin blue line and Blue Lives Matter are intrinsically tied, then yes, the ring will be controversial. If not, then I don’t see the problem. It seems to just be a show of support.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Montego Bay, Jamaica

vintagelover :  of course you can. Just like someone can be supportive of (good) black people even if they don’t agree with the whole Black Lives Matter movement. That’s all I will say about that. I don’t want to get into that on a wedding forum! 

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My Fiance is a firefighter and many of our friends are LEOs. There exists a thin red line ring for FFs too. I think it can be for support as well as actually being in the fire or police service. It’s a nice ring. Enjoy it 🙂

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Double post- sorry! Deleted 

Post # 59
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Busy bee

I don’t think it is disrespectful at all. If that is the rule then every lady who has a blue sapphire band inbetween their wedding band and engagement ring need to be married to a police officer since that’s a thing too. When I look at this ring that isn’t what I think of or see. My Brother-In-Law is a police officer and I know he wouldn’t look at this as disrespect, that may not even be the original intention behind the design. I think if you guys like it, he should keep it!:) 

Post # 60
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Helper bee

vintagelover :  yes, thin blue line has been a long time before “blue lives matter.” The venn diagram has a lot of intersection though.  I myself am not a fan that this precious thing has become a tool for politics. But neither do I judge them. Here is why.

Some people that want reform of police, they want to change procedures police have to have. For an instance, they say, you have to shoot them in the leg. Or you have to wait until you can see a gun for sure. Things like this. Some of the things would make being a police more dangerous and probably more police could die if they are followed.  Some acknowledge this, which is good that they are honest. They are OK to have more danger for police if it is safer for citizens. That is a fine opinion, Ok, to want it balanced a little more the other way.

But it does make me angry when I hear, like my coworkers, say like they really don’t care, or who cares if they are in more danger, its what we pay taxes for. Or they say, in our nice safe air condition office, that police are cowards for not just accepting more danger in their job. It makes me hope to burst when my husband could die and people say it is a worthwhile trade for something else they want. 

So, with blue lives matter, some are racist for sure. They don’t like black people, they want to steal their phrase. But some I know think it is important to organize themselves and resist the reforms with this attitude of “yes, let more of them die if necessary, its acceptable.” For sure expect the people that love them to want to remind people that the police lives still matter as well. So I don’t blame them for this. I am terribly afraid myself of what will come.  I do wish they had a different phrase then blue lives matter, because some people dont use it for liking the police, they use it for hating black people.  I like “back the blue” better.   

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