Is my friend going too far by telling us not to wear makeup? (Update)

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
5249 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m not buying that a bride made several guests wash their makeup off on the day, at the venue. 

Post # 47
3385 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would not have gone to that wedding – or if I did would have left if bride made me take my make up off.

That is some proper cray cray there.

Post # 48
10014 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m gonna need to see a pic of this invite with a spoon before I buy this story. 

Post # 49
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

i believed this story in the beginning, but im starting to question if this is legit. Asking people to not wear makeup is one thing, physically going up to people at the wedding and telling them to take off their makeup is a whole other level. I need to see a pic of this invite…

Post # 50
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

What does “no makeup” mean exactly? I had he discussion with my husband once. I define make up as anything you put on you face including mascara. My husband defines  make up as foundation and contouring etc not counting mascara and defines eys shadow and eyeliner as eye-make up. So for him “no make-up” would mean that mascara is allowed. (I’d gone straight for a beautician and would have dyed my lashes and had some extensions made. Nothing I could take off, right?!😉)

That said I just want to add that I would not have shown up “naked” to an event that takes pictures. I have horrible scars from an adult form acne (the red and blue kind not the deep holes which is good because you can cover that up easily) and I never allow pictures of me to be taken where the scars are visible eventough i don’t cover them up on daily basis. 

Post # 51
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

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sboom :  Haha, she did answer “Nope” on page 2 to this question (I had to go back and check myself).

Post # 52
4320 posts
Honey bee

This is up there with one of the strangest requests of a bridezilla.

Post # 53
2971 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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CloverBells :  Ah ok.

It is slightly less fuckity if the bride was also barefaced. I think it’s weird and an uncomfortable request to make of people, but I can at least understand it a bit more if she wasn’t wearing any make up either.  I would think, though, that if she is the type for whom something like this would be normal then people would have been less surprised by it?

Post # 54
5996 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

The ones with permanent makeup and lashes would have had it made!

Post # 55
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

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zzar45 :  Yeah, I think this thread needs to see the receipts at this point XD

Post # 56
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Picture evidence or it didnt happen..


haha kidding..


but not really.. 

Post # 58
686 posts
Busy bee


fine if the bride doesn’t want to weAr any. Lots of people don’t wear much. And fine asking BMs or whatever for a natural look – but your guests faces should we 100% off limits – that’s just pure rude.



Post # 59
9939 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Huh.  This is a weird one.  Thanks for the update, OP. 

I would have declined going to that wedding, personally, because I find it bizarre and very rude that someone would have the gall to require their guests, as well as the wedding party, to wear no makeup, if I’m understanding correctly. 

If you’re not in my house on Saturday morning at the crack of dawn you don’t have the right to see me without makeup.  And I wear next to nothing on daily basis, even to work.  Still, not any bride’s place to tell me what I can put on my own face.  Over-the-top weird.

Post # 60
3422 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry, OP, but I think it was a mistake on your part, as well as the guests’, to comply with this request. When you humor a request such as this one, either on the basis of friendship or wishing to please the person, the result is that the person feels validated in her rudeness and absurdity. 

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