Is my friend going too far by telling us not to wear makeup? (Update)

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 76
63 posts
Worker bee

Same. I need to see a picture of this invite. This is getting weirder and weirder by the minute lol

Post # 77
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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radnurse :  Yeah, that’s the thing, I don’t think the real issue is makeup versus no makeup, because everyone has different perceptions on if wearing makeup is comfortable for them or not. The issue is two-fold I think: first, a bride shouldn’t be dictating what her bridesmaids do with their makeup/hair/nails/etc, full stop. But even that wouldn’t be a huge deal, if the bride knows her bridesmaids would be up for it and is also totally fine with her bridesmaids saying “no, that isn’t something I would be comfortable doing.” The biggest issue is when the bride is demanding her bridesmaids do/wear something they are uncomfortable with, whether that’s not wearing makeup, or wearing makeup, or wearing high heels, or wearing a low cut or backless dress, or whatever it is they aren’t comfortable with.

Post # 78
37 posts

I know that some people are comfortable not wearing makeup, and that’s great! But some of us aren’t. I live my life having to wear it due to an abnormality that people have decided to comment on any time they see it. I can hide it to some degree with makeup so that tends to fend off comments. The comments make me feel terrible about myself. If I was told I had to go to a wedding with no makeup I wouldn’t be able to attend. Being constantly asked questions, having people point out the flaw and tell me ways I could solve it (they have no idea this won’t help) would be very difficult for me emotionally. 

Maybe not everyone is in a situation like this, but for the ones who are, this is why freedom and personal choice are important.

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