Is my friend going too far by telling us not to wear makeup?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 91
7239 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I don’t even wear much makeup but I wouldn’t let anyone tell me what I could do or not do with my face. I would step down first.

Post # 92
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Oh so the bride isn’t wearing makeup either? Well then, I can see why she wouldn’t want her BMs to wear makeup either since she’ll be the odd one out, especially in photos. But still, it’s unreasonable of her to dictate what her BMs wear or not wear, especially if they’re uncomfortable with her choices… 

Post # 93
2582 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It’s just so weird & random. Like demanding all the ladies attending the wedding wear short pants or something. Odd and ridiculous. Is she trying to make some social statement or something? Maybe demand all the men wear fake beards? 

This is just … off.

Post # 94
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Even if she’s not wearing makeup that’s her choice and it is not her place to dictate what the bridesmaids wear. You should be allowed to wear what makes you feel comfortable. I think her choice to go makeup-free on her wedding day is after all her choice but a risky one at that. I would approach her as a group and if she is unwilling to allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin then I’d walk. Maybe bring some pictures of more natural makeup ideas and show her what you have in mind?? I’m sorry but this sounds bat shit CRAZY. 

Post # 95
1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I wear a full face everyday so this would not go overwell with me. Ha! I think it’s odd that she would want her bridal party to have their hair and nails done but not their faces. At least mascara! This will not turn out well. 

I don’t know if I would step down but I would certainly get lash extenstion and put on a lip stain before the wedding. Hahaha

Post # 96
686 posts
Busy bee

Its just so odd. 

I dont wear a hella lot of make up but I do need mascara and brows to look somewhat human.

I dont think I woudl die in a ditch enough about it to step down – but I would definitely bend/break the rule. Brow and lash tint and blush and lipstain all the way…

If she tried to physically remove it off my face on the day I would step down then and there.

I am not a child…

Post # 97
13788 posts
Honey Beekeeper

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sarahbee88 :  What people? Guests too? Bridal party can and should get together to tell her you are not comfortable with the request and are happy to step down if it’s a requirement. 

Post # 98
9894 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d tell her I would do a neutral/natural look but no way would I be bare faced at a formal event. Sorry not sorry.

Post # 99
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would legitimately drop out of a wedding if the bride demanded I not wear make-up. I have had acne my entire life. I have lots of acne scars, and I still have flare-ups and breakouts even in my late 20s. I don’t go to the movies without foundation on. I’d die before I’d be photographed and stand up in someone’s wedding with a bare face. That would be so uncomfortable. She’s being ridiculous. 

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