Is my gift too cheap?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
472 posts
Helper bee

That’s a lovely gift! I’d love and use it.

Post # 3
9278 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think you’re being incredibly generous! If any of your bridesmaids feel like it’s not enough, I’d majorly side-eye them.

Post # 4
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Sounds great to me! Totally practical and reusable. I’d be happy to receive that 🙂

Post # 5
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Gifts are just that – gifts. There should be no expectation about the cost or type. However, it doesn’t matter how much you spend on the gifts, they’re nice gifts. I’m sure your bridal party will be thankful, and all of the gifts sound nice and useful, and you didn’t commit the sin of personalizing them or putting your wedding date on them.

Also, I’ve never heard of a bridesmaid paying for their bouquet, so that’s definitely not a gift or unusual that you paid for them.

Post # 7
6884 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I don’t think it’s cheap, these ‘gifts’ are just all for you. So while I can appreciate you spending money on them it doesn’t seem like actual gifts to acknowledge their friendship and thank them for standing up with you. Instead you are giving them photo props so they all match in your photos.

Post # 8
438 posts
Helper bee

 I don’t get why people are against having bridesmaid gifts being stuff for the wedding like the jewlery. I would have loved to not have to buy jewlery for the weddings I have been in!

Your gifts are lovely. I have NEVER been in a wedding with the expectation of getting a great gift. It was because I wanted to be there for my friend who was getting married. 

Post # 9
636 posts
Busy bee

There’s nothing to thank them for besides being your friend and walking in a line? How about the fact that they are taking time out of their lives to come to your wedding and support you getting married? And traveling for it no less, so taking even more time and energy. Your gifts are fine if that’s what they like, I’m not commenting on the gifts, just that statement you made is pretty cold. 

Post # 10
2467 posts
Buzzing bee

 I’m going to be the outlier here.  They seem more like gifts for you/your wedding, and items that are your taste.  (ie, robes, identical jewelry you hope is worn at the wedding)

I believe gifts should reflect the recipient’s taste and style.  It’s not a about being cheap but about being thoughtful and personalized. (And by personalized, I mean specific to each person’s taste/style, not monogrammed!)

I would much rather have a heart-felt handwritten thank you note than a cookie-cutter gift identical to the ones received by the other members of the bridal party.  

Post # 11
3068 posts
Sugar bee

While it’s nice that you are giving them the jewelry you want them to wear for your wedding, I’m not really sure it could be defined as a gift. A gift is just not something you give to someone; it is something that you give with the intention of delighting the recipient. And it really doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg. A true gift says “I know what you enjoy/gives you joy, I pay attention, and I want you to be very happy with this gift”. It takes a little imagination, a little homework, but is is so gratifying to see a friend happy about a gift! Hypothetically speaking, one of your BMs could be a biking enthusiast, one could love gardening, and one could be a coffee “snob”. With that knowledge, you could give each one a lovely thank-you gift, all under $60.00; just for example:




Post # 12
7751 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

There is literally nothing wrong with giving your bridesmaids jewelry as a gift, whether you have them wear it in the wedding or not. It is still a gift, and only on the bee will you find negative nancys implying that it’s not a real gift. I think I’ve been given jewelry as a gift every single time I’ve been a bridesmaid. Some of the pieces I never wore again becaues they weren’t my taste, but some I still have and wear regularly. Either way I always appreciated it.

Your gifts all sound lovely!

Post # 14
1616 posts
Bumble bee

Your gifts sound lovely. Dont overthink it.

Post # 15
2286 posts
Buzzing bee

akshali2000 :  I love that idea!! It’s super cute and something they can actually use. Stop being so hard on yourself, bee. You’ve done a great job with these gifts!

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