- 2 years ago
sounds lovely, not cheap
sounds lovely, not cheap
summertime8 : I’m sorry that it came off cold, that was not my intention. I just meant that it’s not much different than a normal guest would be doing. Even if they weren’t bridesmaids, they would still be taking time and money out to travel to attend right? By that definition I should be getting personally picked out gifts for all our out of town guests.
misslucy : claroquesi : jellybellynelly : thanks for the ideas! I’ll see if I can come up with something. I think cute passport holders would be a great gift for almost all of them since 4/5 love to travel and do it frequently (that’s why I thought of the travel pouches to begin with); however, this runs the risk of being all the same again with just one girl getting something different which might end up backfiring.
I’ve never heard a bride mention the fact that they are paying for the bridesmaid bouquets as though that is generous or going above and beyond. Curious if there are places or instances where bridesmaids have to pay for their own bouquet?
I think they’re lovely gifts and definitely not cheap, but agree that you could add something personal for each of them. It doesn’t need to be anything expensive. I got various members of my wedding party non-wedding jewellery, a fancy pen, socks, a hammer, notebooks, and drinking glasses.
Personally, if a friend covered all these costs for me, didn’t give me a gift, but I ended up with a cute bag and jewellery after the wedding, I would be more than happy. But if I was presented them as a gift, which turned out to be wedding props that were the exact same as the other bridesmaids, I’d feel a little miffed, but get over it in a week!
honestly i think that people tend to go overboard for every little thing nowadays (thanks to pinterest!). myself included. im gifting alot but im also asking htem for two weekdays of their time for my out of town wedding so i felt it was appropriate. i honestly dont know why so many people have an issue with giving jewelry. hell, i spent $5,000 dollars being the Maid/Matron of Honor for my cousins international wedding two years ago and the only gift she gave me was a pair of earrings to wear in the wedding. but you know what? ive worn them again! its not about stuff, its about being there for the person you love. your gifts are quite generous and lovely in my opinion
I think your gifts sound lovely. I think they will feel appreciated.
bear123 : Probably not, but in my financial planning I am lumping anything to do with bridesmaids under “bridal party expenses”. For me, this would include bouquets. And as I mentioned in my post, I understand that bouquets are not gifts. But they are an expense which, with everything else, does add up especially for 5 girls. Again, this is fine, it’s just I do have to be sensitive to how much I spend on gifts because of the other costs.
For my BFFs wedding she got us (the bridesmaids that is) matching necklaces that were 25 quid each from Etsy. They’re gorgeous necklaces and I wear mine all the time. I think your gifts are lovely!
This is almost what I did for my BM’s – I got them Swarovski bracelets (i.e. not cheap lol) and a pair of beautiful earrings which they all loved.
My MOH’s mother actually LOVED her earrings and wears them quite a bit, all the girls have worn their bracelets.
The only one I did anything extra for was my Maid/Matron of Honor because we’ve known each other since we were 4 or so and she did A LOT for me. I make her a scrapbook with pictures of us through the years (whcih she adored) and surprised her with Taylor Swift Tickets (which is pretty much half for me anyway so I consider that an investment lol). My Maid/Matron of Honor helped us so much with our Stag & Doe, planning my bachelorette etc. (I didn’t want a shower and threatened to walk out if they did one) that I had to do something extra for her.
I don’t think it’s too cheap at all. However, I don’t think you should be considering hair/makeup and matching robes, as a gift. It’s incredibly generous, and the costs do add up, but that’s on you for choosing 5 bridesmaids.
The gifts sound fine – i think anything as a gesture is nice, but what is it with people saying buying the dresses, hair ect is honorable for the bride to do?
Sorry but if you ask someone to be in your bridal party, you cant then have them fork out their hard earned cash for that. theyre still going to have to pay additional costs on the lead up to the wedding, so expecting someone to have to pay to participate in your day is ludicrous.
ladyvk : that’s awesome! Svarofsky was my original plan since I have one and I use it all the time, but they were too expensive for my budget for 5 people 🙁 But now that I think about it, with all the small things added up I probably could have just not done the robes and other jewelry and splurged on one nice gift instead 🤷🏻♀️. Ah well, live and learn. Love your gifts, hope you enjoyed the concert – always wanted to see Taylor Swift live!