Post # 1
So I have a best friend who is a guy. He has been a good friend to me and is always there for me. but he can be picky when I favor his tweets on twitter and a lot of his gfs wallposts that her friends post. So heres the
On my bestfriends gfs birthday I favored a few of her wallpost her friends put and my best guy friend tells me I need to stop. I said stop what and he says stop favoring his gfs wallposts because her notifications are
beeping and he says phones could be dying. I apoligized to him and said I would watch it. I talked to my dad and he says it could have been his gf who complained to him about me doing that and she didnt want to say
that to me. So I dont know why he would care. I also asked him if I could put him as my brother on facebook and he says no its too much. So What is he not comfortble with me doing that? Is it
A. I am annoying and need to be less annoying according to him
B. His gf is complaining and finds me annoying like my dad claims since according to one of my girlfriends
his gf tells him he had to limit his lady friends a few months back
C. theres a chance he might have a crush on me but wont admit it?
Post # 4
I get the impression you’re a little young to be here…hmmm…How old are you?
Post # 6
Well, first thing that stands out is: Why on earth would you want him to be your “brother” on Facebook when he obviously isn’t your brother? I won’t even let my Mother-In-Law list me as her daughter, because I’m not her daughter. Daughter in law, yes… daughter, no. He’s not comfortable with you doing that cause you’re not his sister/he’s not your brother!
As to the rest of it, it really doesn’t matter if it’s her or him. Even if it’s her, he cares enough about what she wants to ask you to back off. Are you friends with this girl in real life? I’d find it creepy if a stranger (even a friend’s SO) was favoring/liking things I did online frequently.
Your dad could be right, but regardless your “best friend” asked you to do this and you should respect it.
I’m sorry but from your post it sounds like you have issues with personal boundries. 🙁 Please don’t take that as me being mean, it can be hard to work out where they are sometimes. But really think about how you act and respect when people ask you to back off if nothing else. Even if you don’t agree it makes sense, they are someone you are close to and care about and they are asking you to so do it out of respect for them.
I’m not sure where “C” came from? As far as I can tell you think he’s asking you to back off because it’s making his girlfriend uncomfortable, I’d say respect that (since it’s what she wants and him too if he’s said any of this) so that you can have the frienship.
ETA: seeing your age and username (sorry I didn’t look at it before) you’d really be better off finding an age appropriate forum, or better yet people in real life you can talk to (counsellors, therapist, doctor, teachers, religious elders, parents, even friends who seem more mature, etc).
Post # 7
From OPs previous posts she’s about 15, I think.
And I’m going to go with B… but regardless of whether or not it’s come from your friend’s gf or himself, you need to give them some space. I’m sure you’d be feeling smothered too if the roles were reversed.
Post # 8
I also wondered where C came from lol.
Post # 9
@outgoingcutie15: OP, I don’t know how old you are but this advice stands for anyone using FB: no matter how funny, interesting or nice you find someone to be on facebook, it’s a good idea to not like many posts/leave comments. It can come across as clingy and annoying. I had to tell my mum to stop when I first went to university, as she was liking everything and it looked like she wouldn’t leave me alone, plus I kept getting beeps and notifications. So, try to limit the liking. In your head you can like every post but now and then it is okay to like a post.
Post # 10
You should add a poll for this, but I’d vote “B”-I think it’s probably best to just give them some space on FB if you want to keep your friend. Even if you don’t mean any harm, asking to add him as your brother and favoring her posts seem to be coming off the wrong way.
Post # 11
thank you for the advice. Im considering going to group therepy for my social ques because i need to know where to set boundries.
Post # 12
and i am giving my friend some space as we speak. i decided to give him space fo a while.