- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Me and my husband just celebrated our first year anniversary. Just today I found few messages on his phone ( i was looking for some address in one of his friend’s messages and came across really hearbreaking messages of him to random girls). I knew that he watches porn once in a while and i am completely ok with that. The thing i did not know was he finds these numbers from random escort websites and messages them asking for their service charge. I found out he does this couple of times a month. His messages included asking for their service charge, then saying few dirty things he wants to do with them and then cancelling the plan by saying I gottta cancel can’t make it.
when i confronted him his explaination was all these messages were just for time pass. he never did anything and he hasnt cheated on me. I cried for hours since I could not believe he could do something like this. according to him he messages these girls just to get excited. I find it really hard to believe. on the other hand all his messages did include cancelling in the end.
i am very sad and confused. I never thought he could even think of doing something like this. for me even if he hasnt slept around, i feel he has still cheated on me by sending those messages. I love him so very much and I can not think of giving him divorce or anything. Is there anyone who can help me advice in this situation ? i can not really talk about it to friends or family. I am in DESPERATE need of help.