(Closed) Is my husband invited?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is my husband invited to this wedding?
    Yes - she knows you are married, of course you can bring him : (8 votes)
    36 %
    No - nothing was stated about dates on the FB event invite - even though it's your spouse : (9 votes)
    41 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @oracle: I would say assume nothing and ask. He “should” be invited, but that doesn’t mean he is.

    Post # 4
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    He’s invited. But in case she’s got her head on backwards and isn’t inviting spouses, maybe you can ask so she’s not surprised.

    Post # 6
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    2313 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would definitely ask. I sent invitations out just yesterday so nobody’s gotten them yet, but a friend who lives across the country that I didn’t really think would come is trying to make it and told me today “I might make my sister my plus one to make the trip cheaper,” and I had to very awkwardly inform her that as she hadn’t really mentioned being able to come at all, and also doesn’t have a boyfriend, I hadn’t given her a plus one. AND I FELT SO BAD!! But there’s people we had to cut off our list, you know, and I can’t just go giving a seat to her sister I had never met! I was going to seat her at a table with a bunch of our mutual friends so she’d be totally comfortable, and she had never mentioned bringing anyone let alone even being able to COME until yesterday and ugh I felt bad but I mean… I do not KNOW HER SISTER! 

    So, long story short, just ask, because she’ll appreciate that you didn’t just assume even if your husband IS invited and she just neglected to mention it. It looks thoughtful and polite to ask rather than just assume.

    Post # 7
    Member
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wouldn’t assume he’s invited. Ask her. If she says no, then I wouldn’t go either.

    Post # 8
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i voted other, i would always politely ask because you dont want to guess and get it wrong

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