(Closed) Is my husband invited?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would ask him.  But really a married couple should always be invited together.

Post # 4
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I assume that since you are married the invitation is for you and your husband. I have never heard of a wedding invite for one half of the couple only Laughing It seems like a casual wedding if he just handed you the invite, (just assumption, lol)

Post # 5
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If you are concerned I would ask but probably your husband is invited.  This isn’t a case where only your name is on the envelope and you are asking. 

Post # 6
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, he’s a guy, so he probably didn’t even think to clarify. Im sure your husband is invited, so just ask him real quick, “hey i wasn’t sure if it’s ok if i bring my husband? it’s totally cool if not though”.

A guy won’t read into it the way a girl will, so just be direct. He wont’ think yuou’re being rude by asking.

How nice of them to invite you, being new and all =]

Post # 8
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So, the envelope wasn’t addressed at all?  Was it just addressed to you?  Did you invite any of these new coworkers to your wedding?

I would either:

1) not attend at all

2) drop him an email and say, “I am looking forward to your wedding and plan on attending; however, it wasn’t clear to me from the invitation if my husband was also invited.  Just wanted to clarify before I rsvp.”

I think by emailing it keeps it a little less awkward than asking in person.  And if you let him know you want to go with or without your husband it doesn’t put a ton of pressure on him if your husband wasn’t invited. 

What an awkward situation!  

Post # 10
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would mention it to the other coworkers.  But I also really think you should just ask him.  As ejs4y8 said, he is a guy…probably wont freak out if you ask in an easy going way. 

Post # 11
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would definitely casually ask him.  What’s the worst that could happen?  He’ll say no and then you kindly decline.  Which I’m sure is not the case, he probably assumed you would know it’s for both of you.

Post # 12
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just ask. If the office is as close-knit as you say, I don’t think he would be offended at all. You are the newbie there….you don’t know how they roll yet. No harm in asking.

Post # 13
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Spouses are always invited, don’t worry about it!

Post # 14
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I think since your RSVP card has space for two he gave you a +1.  So if you’re choosing to bring your husband, then yes, he’s invited.  🙂

Post # 15
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would ask your other coworkers if their SO’s were invited.  I was invited to a cowaorkers wedding at my old job.  No one’s spouses/FI/SOs were invited and my supervisor just automatically assumed his wife was invited and brought her – ackward when there was no seat for her!!

Post # 16
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i would assume it was for you and your husband.

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