Post # 1
I started a new job right before my wedding. My coworker is getting married and gave me the invite by hand and said “sorry I didn’t have your address because I got them all before you started” and handed it to me. Only thing? No outer envelope… is my husband invited? The RSVP has spot for two guests to be written in but I don’t want to be rude and assume… but also don’t want to have to ask (since it is my new job!)
He knows I’m married, and I’m leaning towards, who would invite anyone without their husband? But just wondering what you all think.
ps- the wedding is at his MIL’s house outdoors. Not that it makes much of a difference but it’s not like a banquet hall with strict seating limitations.
Post # 3
I would ask him. But really a married couple should always be invited together.
Post # 4
I assume that since you are married the invitation is for you and your husband. I have never heard of a wedding invite for one half of the couple only It seems like a casual wedding if he just handed you the invite, (just assumption, lol)
Post # 5
If you are concerned I would ask but probably your husband is invited. This isn’t a case where only your name is on the envelope and you are asking.
Post # 6
Well, he’s a guy, so he probably didn’t even think to clarify. Im sure your husband is invited, so just ask him real quick, “hey i wasn’t sure if it’s ok if i bring my husband? it’s totally cool if not though”.
A guy won’t read into it the way a girl will, so just be direct. He wont’ think yuou’re being rude by asking.
How nice of them to invite you, being new and all =]
Post # 7
I guess since I’m new and am not all BFF-y with him (my coworkers are all REALLY close, I can tell I will be eventually but obvs it doesn’t happen overnight) I feel weird about asking? Like he’ll feel like he has to say yes?
Post # 8
So, the envelope wasn’t addressed at all? Was it just addressed to you? Did you invite any of these new coworkers to your wedding?
I would either:
1) not attend at all
2) drop him an email and say, “I am looking forward to your wedding and plan on attending; however, it wasn’t clear to me from the invitation if my husband was also invited. Just wanted to clarify before I rsvp.”
I think by emailing it keeps it a little less awkward than asking in person. And if you let him know you want to go with or without your husband it doesn’t put a ton of pressure on him if your husband wasn’t invited.
What an awkward situation!
Post # 9
I started there a week before my wedding so none of them were invited. We didn’t have a traditional reception either.
He doesn’t have an email. I work for a mall’s mall office, and it’s me, 3 coworkers, and then 3 operations guys (aka mainteance) so he does maintenance and doesn’t have an email.
What if I asked one of my coworkers if their husbands were invited? Do you think that’s safe?
Post # 10
I would mention it to the other coworkers. But I also really think you should just ask him. As ejs4y8 said, he is a guy…probably wont freak out if you ask in an easy going way.
Post # 11
I would definitely casually ask him. What’s the worst that could happen? He’ll say no and then you kindly decline. Which I’m sure is not the case, he probably assumed you would know it’s for both of you.
Post # 12
Just ask. If the office is as close-knit as you say, I don’t think he would be offended at all. You are the newbie there….you don’t know how they roll yet. No harm in asking.
Post # 13
Spouses are always invited, don’t worry about it!
Post # 14
I think since your RSVP card has space for two he gave you a +1. So if you’re choosing to bring your husband, then yes, he’s invited. 🙂
Post # 15
I would ask your other coworkers if their SO’s were invited. I was invited to a cowaorkers wedding at my old job. No one’s spouses/FI/SOs were invited and my supervisor just automatically assumed his wife was invited and brought her – ackward when there was no seat for her!!
Post # 16
i would assume it was for you and your husband.