(Closed) Is my husband married to me or his mother?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 2
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    kash0726 :  Check out https://community.babycenter.com/groups/a4725/dwil_nation  for advice.

    He married you – that means you and he are a team.  He needs to put you first.  If he can’t or won’t there is always annulment or divorce.   The fact that he is tolerating his mom lying about you is unthinkable.  

    Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    This isn’t a newly wed issue this is a your husband is being a momma’ boy issue. The two of you should be a team – a two person team that his mother is not a part of. He should have your back and stand up for you when his mother is rude or says unkind things about you. 

    I would suggest marriage counseling because if he won’t communicate with you then you will never be able to resolve this issue.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

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    Astra hadn’t suggested DWIL, I would have! The ladies there can seem harsh but they will give you seriously good advice.  Have you reminded your husband of the part in his vows when he said he’d put you first? 

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

    DWIL. Stat. Your marriage isn’t going to survive this if you don’t act now.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    R/justnomil is good too (on Reddit).

    Post # 8
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    Bee Keeper

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    kash0726 :  I’m sorry sweetie but this doesn’t sound hopeful. I don’t even know that counselling is an option here when your husband is so closed minded and refusing to discuss or work on things. If his mother is flat out rude to you and openly dislikes you and your husband not only doesn’t stand up for you but gets angry and dismissive when you try talking to him, then you’re best to just cut your losses and get out of this toxic no-win situation.

    Divorce sucks, even if it’s more the loss of your hopes and dreams than the actual loss of him- but a lifetime with Norman and Norma Bates would suck far worse than a divorce you can move on from.

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