(Closed) Is my husband or the girl out of line?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 181
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2017

bobsgirl2007 :  Yeah, after reading all your upates he’s worthless trash. I feel bad for any woman who ends up with him..

Post # 184
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4910 posts
Honey bee

bobsgirl2007 :  shoot I missed the updates. I’m so sorry girl. I would definitely contact your friends though. I’m not

Post # 185
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2646 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Wow. Just read the last update, he is playing the mind-fuck game for keeps isn’t he?  I’d go get the rest of my stuff out and then burn the house down. What a piece of shit.

Post # 186
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Oh fuuuuuuuuccck this. 

1. He is, at minimum, emotionally abusive.

2. He has definitely cheated on you emotionally and almost CERTAINLY cheated on you physically. Don’t waste another minute trying to prove this. It doesn’t ultimately matter because he’s aggresive and unhappy (and so are you) either way. 

3. He’s a 38 year old drunk who clearly has a lot of shit to work out, and you two have been circling each other in a toxic whirlpool for at least the past year. 

Cut your losses. Start the divorce process today. It’s NOT GETTING BETTER. You’re his wife and you’re living with your parents over living in the home you share??  That ITSELF should be enough to open your eyes to what’s happening. 

Btw, you’ve got some serious shit to figure out about yourself, too. It’s going to be easy to blame him as you move forward, and for certain parts of this you should, but you need to take a hard look at why you were willing to put up with this, and beg someone like that to stay with you. And no, “we were together nine years” isn’t a good enough reason. 

Be better to yourself. Start doing that today. Schedule an appointment with a lawyer and figure out your options, and schedule an appointment with a therapist for yourself too. Your future is still ahead of you, and it shouldn’t involve any of this bullshit any longer. 

Good luck to you.

Post # 188
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Don’t be mad. It is your marriage and you wanted to fight for it. But sometimes it is best to walk away. There is a much happier future in store for you.

Post # 189
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

bobsgirl2007 :  I read through this entire thread and I feel so badly for you. Girl you deserve so much better than this piece of shit guy. He is stringing you along and making you feel worthless in the process. Don’t waste ONE more minute on this shithead excuse for a man. Your life will be so much better after you kick this guy to the curb! 

Post # 190
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

bobsgirl2007 :  I am so sorry. Your husband is a piece of shit and I think you will find someone amazing who treats you well and loves, I wish you nothing but the best.

 

Post # 192
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Sorry to hear you had to go through that. Focusing on yourself sounds like the best plan.

Post # 193
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m sorry, Bobsgirl, but I’m glad you’re out of that mess. My ex left after 10 years. Leading up to the break-up, he also acted like everything was great and that he was excited for the rest of his life with me. Then he started saying that he had never wanted to be married in the first place. Weird mind games. It took me about a year to start dating again, but online dating definitely didn’t suck. I had the time of my life and then met a great guy. Wishing you the best.

Post # 194
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Buzzing bee

Woah.

That is literally all I can say.

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