(Closed) Is my madness justified

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

What it symbolises bothers me more than it being ugly. Why does your Fiance want you to wear something you are against? 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Oh to answer your question, no I wouldn’t wear it. Not if you don’t agree with what it stands for. I think it’s fine to wear something out of respect, but not in this circumstance. 

Out of curiosity – what is it??

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Could you compromise? Don’t wear it (say it doesn’t go with your dress or accessories) but wrap it round the stem of your bouquet or something? That way you’ve at least gone some way towards their tradition but not had it on full display.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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ragebee:  sounds hideous… can you try saying that its part of his family and as you didnt grow up with the tradition you dont feel comfortable? 

To be honest though i would just flat out refuse to wear some symbol i didnt believe in, in general, but in particular on my wedding day. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

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ragebee:  Are you wearing a white dress? Is your father walking you down the aisle? Are you wearing a veil? All of these things have a pretty horrid/disgusting origins.

The pig in modern times probably represents a healthy and prosperous family. Maybe rather than thinking about it in traditional terms think about it in a new way much like a lot of the trappings of modern weddings. Hell even marriage itself has a dark history of viewing women as property.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Gross no way. Fiance can bloody wear it if it means so much to him

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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KiwiDerbyBride:  I second this idea, can you wrap it around your bouquet or pin it to the inside of your dress? 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

OMG, I can see why you don’t want to wear that, even without the symbolism.  Hell to the no.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

They are asking to wear a pig necklace that is bigger than your hand ? Meaning aside, that is totally against any wedding aesthetic if you asked me.

Can you maybe compromise to put it as part of decor if it is that big? Maybe on the welcome table (if it doesn’t contain actual gold?)? At least it is seen enough without direct linkage to the bride. 

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