(Closed) Is my marriage already doomed? :(

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would fess up. You had a gut feeling something was wrong, he wouldn’t communicate, you needed to know. You can’t put on a charade and this needs to be addressed. 

Post # 48
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Wannabee

annabanana25 :  I am so so sorry that you are going through this. I can’t imagine how hard that was to read all of that. But seriously girl u need to be honest with him. Be upfront and tell him you want to talk and its a serious situation. Tell him to not get mad but you looked through his phone and explain all that u found and how u feel about it.

Honestly if he cannot see that u are hurt by this and tries to make it up to you, this is where u should really pray about the situation if u are religious. I would say that’ll be the first thing. Then seek for help while trying to work things out together. This is sad and heartbreaking but make him see it from your point of view and ask him how would he feel if u did that and to really make him think about that. 

I’m sorry you are going through this. I pray that your marriage will overcome this test.!

Post # 49
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6177 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Have you spoken with your husband, OP? How did it go?

Post # 50
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  • Wedding: June 2017

At BEST he’s going to cheat on you. At worst he already has. I would leave. 

 

Per his own admission is unsure he wants to be married and feels like he was forced into it. Instead of discussing it with you, despite you having asked him numerous times, he has been slandering you and your relationship to several of his friends. Meanwhile he’s been snap chatting with girls you’ve never even heard of using a snap chat account you didn’t know he had. You said multiple times “this isn’t like him” but I’ve noticed, just in your post, he displays a pattern of deception and lying. 

 

*he lied about how much debt he had 

*he lied about his bachelor party 

*he lied every time you’ve asked him if something was wrong 

*he lied about his social media use 

*he talks and meets up with girls behind your back. 

 

Yes, you can tell him you snooped – but do you know what he’s going to do? Become more sneaky and lie some more. 

 

This is does not sound to me like someone I would stake my future on. You’ve mentioned he’s withdrawan sexually. If I had to bet I would say he is probably cheating on you. I would be shocked Igbo couples counseling could fix him. He sounds to me like he’s got some serious issues going on.

Leave the bastard. 

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