(Closed) Is my menu cheap? Thoughts please.

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think I should do with my menu? (please read first)

    Change to just chicken for everyone & use the $ towards something else

    Keep the grouper & just chicken option

    Add the beef option & cut 50 people from guest list

  • Post # 47
    5622 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Chicken is fine. That menu looks great! I’m glad catering isn’t $150/pp here, though!


    Post # 48
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    His parents sound ritzy. too much for food if you ask me. and you cant even invite some of the people to your own wedding. But i think chicken is fine. im having chicken and fish and thats only because i fell in love with the venue. they only have those options. and its only 20 a plate per person. i dont even have to pay for the venue just the food. steak is nice but really is unrealistic. the price of it has gone up too.

    Post # 49
    25 posts
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Girl, I’m sorry to hear your Future Mother-In-Law is chastisizing the menu, but the venue sounds AMAZING and I would die to go to a wedding like that!  Here in Utah, people serve punch & 1/2 croissant sandwiches at their weddings!  Plus, if you won’t see the guests for a few years, who cares what they think of the menu!  No one else will think it’s cheap at all.

    Post # 50
    1581 posts
    Bumble bee

    I hope that you have no more stress over this. Your menu is amazing! It would be completely k to cut back, but adding would simply be over the top. Time to tell Future Mother-In-Law to step away from the menu!

    Post # 51
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    wait, who’s wedding is this?

    I just kept thinking, this is suppoed to be your day :/


    Post # 52
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Crap. Now I’m second guessing my menu. We’re getting married at a winery and there are only 3 choices for the menu. We went with the middle one which was in our budget and allowed us to have an open bar for $10 extra a person. Is MINE too cheap? We don’t have any other choice other than pork tenderloin (they’re doing one vegetarian dish for a bridesmaid, but the rest is as below) Frown

    Here’s the menu (it’s $55 per person, then $10 extra for open bar):

    Classic white wine and red: 1/2 bottle per person

    Market Soup
    Lettuce from the garden and our house dressing
    Pork tenderloin with apple sauce and maple syrup
    Chocolate and praline cake
    Tea – Coffee – Infusion
    Coffee late at nightCutting and serving the wedding cake

    Post # 53
    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I hope you don’t have any vegetarians…

    Post # 54
    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    You should tell your Mother-In-Law that, if she wants beef that badly, SHE can pay for it.  It’s very easy to judge and demand things when you’re not paying.  Don’t let her feel badly about your menu – Everything sounds delicious!  Just understand that, with planning an event this large, you’re not going to please everyone.  Someone is going to complain about something, no matter what. In the end, it’s your wedding.  Do it how YOU want to do it.  That way, you’ll know you won’t have any regrets.

    Post # 55
    4539 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think it’s cheap at all.

    Like previous posters, it is a bit seafood heavy. I love seafood, so I’d be thrilled but a lot of people do not.

    The only reason I’m hesitant to say forget the beef is because there are people who are allergic to poultry. These same people might not like seafood, so they would be left with pretty much nothing. My aunt is allergic to poultry so that’s why we’re also offering steak. Can you forgo the lobster for beef?


    Post # 56
    625 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Definitely not cheap. I would suggest the following revisions which would hopefully bring down the cost:


    *5 hours deluxe open bar,

     *butler passed Hors D’Ouevres 

     -pork belly skewer

     -mini crab cakes

     -shrimp ceviche

     -tuna tataki – lot of people do not like tataki

     -blackened grouper skewer use the grouper as a main

     -sea scallop tiradito

    *Champagne Toast

    *Wine service with dinner

    *Plated two course meal

    lobster crudo (appetizer) Do a salad appetizer – lobster is expensive and there’s a lot of seafood on the menu

    -chicken or grouper (keep option of both!)


    -red velvet wedding cake


    Also, I would like to add that it really sucks that you only get 5 friends at your wedding. If you can trim people out of the guest list that you don’t know and aren’t a part of your life to make room for people you actually care about, I think you’d be a lot happier!

    Post # 57
    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s totally fine to just have chicken (as long as there is a vegetarian option, for people who don’t eat meat) and if your Future Mother-In-Law wants to complain about it, she can feel free to write you a check to cover the cost of adding a beef option. Weddings are so crazy – people who would never dream of going to someone’s house for dinner and complaining about the entree offered will have lots of unsolicited opinions about how you should do things at your wedding. 

    I do think your appetizers are pretty seafood-heavy, though… I love seafood and would be thrilled, but you might want to add some non-seafood options for people who don’t like it. We’re having eight apps, and picking two beef, two chicken, two seafood and two vegetarian to try to have something for almost everyone.

    Post # 61
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @SunshineLovin:  GIRL! Forget the beef! go with the chicken and it will be fine. You have seafood apps and a beautiful view. If they can’t handle it, that’s their problem! 🙂

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