Post # 62
Skip the beef – unless it’s organic, free-range beef, it’s really unhealthy stuff to be eating anyway.
Your menu doesn’t sound cheap in the least. It is a bit seafood-heavy on the appetizers, though – maybe save some money by dropping a few of those, and adding some non-meat hors d’oevures? Puff-pastry with cheese? Gourmet bruschetta? Onion tarlets? Caprese skewers? Honestly, everything on those trays look so yummy as the butler passes by with them! It’s the flavorfulness that counts – and the fact that they help soak up the alcohol that your guests are drinking!
Post # 63
Change to chicken and invite some of your friends! It’s so sad that hardly any of YOUR friends are coming!
Post # 64
Sorry to add to your stress about second-guessing your own reception menu, but if the lower-priced option is chicken, I’d really advise you to go with that. Many people don’t eat pork: for religious reasons, because they are vegetarians, or, like so many people I know, they’ll eat fish and chicken but not mammals.
The venue won’t allow to guests to have any kind of choice? Most will allow you to have 2 options.
Post # 65
@wahine777: No one that’s coming is not going to eat pork for religious reasons. What I mean is no one that is coming is religious and if they are, they’re not the non-pork eating type. The lower priced option is chicken but we lose the salad. I could ask them to use chicken instead of pork tenderloin. I’ll see what they say.
Post # 66
@SunshineLovin: I don’t see it as cheap but where is the vegetarian options?? ALL of your food is meat or seafood….
Post # 67
So looking at your appetizer selection I might be able to eat 2 of them but really the only one I know is safe is the pork one because I’m allergic to most seafood. This is not something that most of my family knows. You never know if someone’s plus one is going to be like me, or one of your relatives might have an allergy you don’t know about. Seafood is a really common allergy, being vegetarian is also pretty common. I’d have at least one or two more non-seafood appetizers with at least one of those being vegetarian like a stuffed mushroom or something. An arugula salad is not going to be enough to fill someone up if they don’t eat meat. I would definitely check to see if they do have a vegetarian option for the main meal.
Post # 68
Chicken is a pretty safe choice. I also think it sucks that its your wedding and none of your friends are coming. Maybe you can work with your parents on that, and pick up some of the cost.
Post # 69
I think that’s more food than I eat in a whole day…
Post # 70
Just chicken and a veggie option is fine imo
Ps Can you contribute any money to the wedding to pay for a few more friends’ seats? That just makes me so sad! I know that if your dad is paying, he does get some say, but I think it’s rather unreasonable of him to hijack your entire guest list. My parents paid for my entire wedding…2 tables were their friends (whom I’ve known my entire life and would have probably invited on my own anyway!), 2 tables were my family, one his family, and the other 5 were all my DH and my friends. My mom is very social and had to cut her friend guest list dramatically, but is a reasonable person who knew it wasn’t her wedding and she was giving the wedding as a gift to us…I normally say family should always be invited, but that’s because I have a smaller tight knit family…104 people whom I doubt you see more than once a year is a little asinine imo. BUT as I said, since he’s paying you really can’t do anything about it other than maybe offer to throw in a little extra money to cover some more of your friends :-
Post # 71
@SunshineLovin: I would normally say that wedding cake is not a dessert, especially if it’s something like red velvet that’s somewhat of an aquired taste. But I think that if you’re treating your guests to a meal at the most expensive restaraunt in town they can suck it up. The only thing is, what are you doing about vegetarians?
Post # 72
You don’t need a beef option.
Post # 73
@BookishBelle: I would totally throw in money but I just started working and am barely making it enough to pay my bills! Some days I get so pissed off and other days I just let it go because at least they are paying for it. It does make me sad thinking of some very important friends that I would’ve thought would for sure be there at the wedding are not invited unless my Dads family doesn’t go. The whole thing bothers me and it makes me feel like its not really my wedding. I think my parents are being selfish and they’re even fighting about who’s side gets more invites meanwhile knocking the majority of my friends off. It’s very frustrating!
Post # 74
I am not going to vote because I am a vegetarian and because I think that $150 a plate is crazy. I’m worried about being able to afford $20 a plate.