Post # 32
Thanks for your thoughts. I pretty much got my answer – he had cheated on me and still is as far as I can work out. Its some tramp from work who knows he was married.
I was never naive enough to think I would never be cheated on but the way he has gone about it is insane. I can’t even process it properly right now.
I caught him out on Saturday. He’d told me he was doing one thing and his parents another so it prompted me to check his email account and there it was. Email exchanges and a weekend away booked for that weekend. He’d even brought her designer shoes for her birthday.
Told his parents and they basically killed him on Sunday. He told them it “never should have happened” and that she was just “a salad” – whatever that means. She has a young child so its not like she can offer him a footloose fancy free lifestyle. He still hasn’t contacted me, only to shout at me when he found out I’d changed the locks.
I don’t know what place I’m in right now.
Post # 33
Oh my god, I am SO sorry. That is just awful. And to think, all this time you were so worried about him and trying to figure out how to be supportive of him. I am livid for you.
His loss. Truly. Good for you for standing up for yourself and changing the locks. You can do much better than this douchebag.
Post # 34
I am so sorry. You have been so amazing and gave him the benefit of the doubt. He is making a very big mistake, and I know he wiill realize that soon enough. I agree with PP — it is his loss.
Good job changing the locks.
Post # 35
Wow. What a complete ass. I have a family member who went through this exact same thing– twice. Each time, it was not long after the wedding, and each time she walked. No questions, no second-thoughts. She started her life over and is such a hero in my eyes.
I am so, so sorry.
Post # 36
I am so sorry to hear this. I didn’t think it just sounded like random depression. I have no words. I hope you take that bastard to court and get everything.
Post # 37
I am SO sorry! This is my first time seeing this thread and immedately from just your posts I had a gut feeling he was cheating. My ex fiance behaved the same exact way before I found out he was cheating on me with two other women including my best friend. Everyone thought he was having a complete mental breakdown when in reality he was just too gutless to admit the truth and was looking for an “easy” way out. (Not saying your husband is gutless, just describing mine.) I hope that even though you are devastated and heartbroken that you can feel a sense of peace about it as well. At least you know what happened (what REALLY happened) and you can move on. You deserve to be happy. You deserve better. Hang in there 🙂
Post # 38
Agreed! You deserve better, print out those emails and get a good lawyer! If you don’t have kids yet…THANK GOD! You don’t need that stupidity.
Post # 39
I am very very sorry honey. I just don’t know what men are thinking. I am glad you found out what it was, but not that it was cheating. I read almost every post on this thread, and I too looked at your wedding pictures. YOU are beautiful! Boy is he a FOOL to have done this to you!!!! Life will go on, my ex-husband just flat told me one day he didn’t love me either. We were married for a year when he told me this. It was hard, but my best friend who took me in said something to me that I thought was very rude and heartless at the time, but she told me “he isn’t crying over you, so don’t waste your time crying over him”. It took me a few weeks, but it made perfect sense. I am now remarried and although my marriage/relationship isn’t perfect, I am sure my hubby loves me. I know you will find your way through this pretty girl! I am praying for you!!
Post # 40
@britpopbabyx: I’m not a medical professional, but it sounds like he is having symptoms of depression. The good thing is that he knows that there is something different going on and is talking to people about it. He may want to make an appointment with his doctor and also find a therapist (I’m of the belief that the majority of people can benefit from seeing a counselor/therapist!). I have read the rest of the responses and hope that you are in an okay place. My partner suffers from depression, but I have no idea what I would do if he were cheating on me. My thoughts are with you