- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I met my Fiance 4 years ago. In 2011 we got engaged. He is a loving, kind, serious type of man and is very manly. Although he had his fun and indulgences with many women, he has strong morals and was always searching for his other half.
When the time came, he introduced me to his family and logically he was expecting me to do the same. Since my immediate family leaves in Florida, at first I introduced him to my first cousin here in Toronto. I got a hunch she was attracted to him right for the first day. I ignored the ‘voice’ inside me and tried to enjoy my cousin’s and her bf’s company for a while, since they were the only couple we could hang around with and they were fun to be..
My cousin’s bf is more of the quiet type but he can still make pleasant company. I noticed though that he seemed oblivious to my cousin’s flirting even with other men..At some point, she admitted to me that they were having many fights lately since he lost his job and so he had to move in with her now. She has flirted with my Fiance a few times but she did it in an innocent kind of way so I wasnt so sure at first what she was trying to do. My hunch kept telling me she was attracted to my Fiance before we got married. For example: There was one time when she asked me if I wanted to change seats with her, inside the theater, while waiting for a movie to start!…I was surprised she asked me that and gave her the ‘you’re weird look’ which she ignored. Then she would try to convince her bf to have a haircut just like mine’s or work out hard to have biceps like my FI’s… She would go out of her way to help my Fiance with anything he might want to get or do preventing me from doing my job as his woman! She would compliment him and agree with him all the time in anything he’d say and would lock her eyes on him. She was happy as a butterfly each time she’d be around him. My Fiance would never flirt back and was simply polite because she was my family. One time, he confronted her right at the spot when she became persistent insisting he fixes something very minor and easy to do in her laptop. She used a ‘pet name’ for him and so he told her not to call him like that again and that only I have the right to use pet names for him. She got very embarrased and didnt say a word. After that confrontation though, things took a different turn with her..She became quiet and carried that ‘feel sorry for me’ look each time she’d be around him. I was sure she got her lesson and that she wouldn’t flirt with him again. I never approached her for her behavior because at first I thought she was being friendly in her own way. Later, I thought it would be more important to discuss this with my Fiance and just ‘keep an eye on her’.
When we moved to another city we lost contact with her and her bf for a few months. When we returned to the same city though, we got together with some of my relatives and my cousin was there with her guy. I could tell she was happy to see him because she was nervous. Her bf suggested we go out again and we made plans to go by their place on my birthday for a quiet dinner. When we arrived at their place, I was shocked and surprised to see her asnwer the door wearing a dark pink, sheer summer dress. Her breasts (she had implants) and stiff nipples were showing and also her black thong at the back of her dress each time she had to bend down to pick up something or pick up her tiny dog. I thought she didnt have enought time to change because we did get there earlier than planned though she was expecting us… She never did change even when her bf came later…When I had to use the bathroom I was in for another shock…I saw a red thong right on top of her clothes bin..!
I got the feeling she did this on purpose but since she can be absentminded a lot, I gave her the benefit of the doubt…again.. My Fiance did not have to use the bathroom that day so he never saw anything. The whole night she was giggly and flirty, touching a couple of times my Fiance on his shoulder and arm. She was moving around a lot each time she’d get the chance to show her nipples. I pretended it didnt notice and decided to wait and see how far she would take this. My Fiance didnt tell me anything about the way she was dressed but when we got home I asked him about it and he told me he saw she wasnt wearing a bra. Then he told me that he was wondering whether or not this is how she is or if she was really flirting with him again!…So we both agreed for him to be himself and keep ignoring her to see how far is she going to go with this.
I had promised a dinner to them so two weeks later they came over to our place. When they came she was again all bubbly and happy to be there…After dinner, my cousin complimented my lasagna and when I got up to go to the kitchen and prepare coffee I heard her say something which confirmed my suspicions about her. She turned at my Fiance and told him that when she was with her ex (she is divorced) she’d cook all the time but since he did not appreciate her ‘performance in bed’ now she no longer cooks but instead likes to ‘perform’ only in bed..! I never expected my cousin to say such a sexual inuendo to my FI! My Fiance ignored her and turned to look at her bf as if giving him the chance to say something and so her bf apathetically just changed the subject..Before leaving, my cousin even planned a stay over at our place (our apartment is on the beach) for next weekend!…So, after they left, my Fiance told me he did not feel comfortable with her sexual inuendo and that he no longer wants to hang around with her. He knew she simply hit on him right on!..with her bf right there!!…and my Fiance is very protective of our loving relationship. (He can be jealous too(in a protective way) when other men hit on me. So, when the ‘next weekend’ was coming up, I emailed and texted her a day before that I got a work load to finish at home (I work from home) and that we had to cancel our plans for the weekend stay over. I thought she was going to take a rain check but instead she NEVER replied!!! It’s been two weeks and she still has not even sent me any text message or email. Nothing!…T think she must be mad as hell for ruining her plans!..She acts like an immature hurt child who didnt get her way. I forgot to mention that one time, right before my Fiance and I got engaged, she told me that she knows this guy who has same interests as me and that she told this guy that he should meet a girl just like me…! She said that right in front of my FI!!!…..I thought she was teasing me and I didnt want to believe her sneaky thinking and pretended I thought she was joking…
I am somewhat at a loss right now and dont know what to do with her…She supported me once with a personal issue of mine which was quite sad but now in my happiness she is trying to steal all that? What is she after?? Why is she doing this with my own FI??…How do I go about her? Do I simply avoid her? Or should I try to change my tunes and meet her in public places while I have my Fiance displaying more affection to me like always be right next to me holding my hand and whispering in my ear etc??…Any input would really help me sisters!