(Closed) Is my own first cousin trying to steal my FI?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Odysseia:  wow… cousin or not… what a bitc*, i wouldnt have her anywhere near me…. why?? cos i just could not ever trust her! keep friends around who you know you can trust, she seems to me to lust after ur boyf and she has a high opionion of her self and barefaced cheek to flirt openly etc with ur fella. why dont you tell her… if your ever talking to her again, even if shes in self pity mode.. that you and your partner both feel she is behaving inappropriately towards ur partner, make sure she knows u are both in agreeance with it and if she throws a hissy fit tell her exactly why… all of the above! hopefully she will be more embarressed that she’s been caught out.

I’d cut this friendship right down as shes been pretty forward with ur man already.

as for the thong in the basket… this cud have been just a thong in the basket, thats where they belong once they are worn… cud have been a ploy, but i wouldnt use this to prove shes trying to crack onto ur fella.

Dont waste no time worring about her taking it bad that u have cancelled a weekend, u dont feel comfy and its ur home. gud luck

Post # 4
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I know she’s your cousin, but I have no idea why you keep on hanging out with her so often if this bothers you so much.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sounds like she’s completely out of line as a person, PLUS ewwww as a family member? That’s low. 

Your options are to directly confront her with Fiance backing you up (or else she may just think you’re spoiling her fun, that he’s still game) or you can avoid her forever. 

If it were me, I would avoid her and, if I found myself dealing with her depite my best efforts (because of family obligations, whatever), then I would confront her. Your Fiance shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable around anyone. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Odysseia:  I wouldn’t bother trying this. Even of she is that way with everyone, what she is doing makes you and your Fiance uncomfortable. Let’s say she flirts with everyone. The next time she rub’s your FI’s bicep are you going to think, “Hehe she’s always like this!” or will you think, “OFF MY MAN. NOW.” If it’s the former, if she’s always like this would make it cool by you and your Fiance, do your test. 

If you’re like me and it doesn’t matter if she parades her nipples for everyone or just him, then I would avoid then confront. I know the type who refuses to be accountable. The key is to tell her that you understand that she meant no harm but, whether she realized it or not, she crossed boundaries. If she still plays dumb/innocent, let her know that you’re happy to point out to her the next time her behavior is inappropriate so that she knows where the line is drawn. 

 

Post # 11
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

WOW how inappropriate!! 

I would be done, it doesnt sound like you gusy have any fun hainging out with her and she is acting trampy all the time!  If she was just a friend and not a cousin would you continue the relationship?  Cousin or not I would be done!

not sure why you want to try and continue to do things wither her….

Post # 14
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Good luck but your cousin is extremely inappropriate. Whether she flirts with other men or not doesn’t matter because your Fiance is your man and if he is uncomfortable, time to nip it in the bud. If you feel better just making excuses to not be around her, then by all means do that. Some people are confrontational, others are not. 

Post # 15
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Odysseia:  yeah, well i wud do the same… ie the same as u, generally give a quick tidy to make sure everythings away, mind u if u arrived early she maybe hadnt had the time… anyway, why am i making excuses for her…???? she sounds horriable… and she wud have had time herself to notice the thong in the bathroom at any stage of the evening so she should have put it away!!! get well rid of her, dont put up with any of her rubbish… i wouldnt want a friend like this at all.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Cousin or no cousin, you know you have to cut her out.  She’s rude & disrespectful to both you (family) and your Fiance.  No more excuses, just cut her out

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