is my ring choice to low key

posted 10 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
943 posts
Busy bee

I like that one. I have a simple moissanite solitaire, I wanted something simple too. The only thing I would caution is it looks like the shape will be awkward to pair with a wedding band. You may decide you are happy not adding another band, and just wearing that one, or you may be able to find a jeweller who could make something that would fit this ring. 
To your boyfriend’s concern,  if you live in North America and are wearing a ring with clear sparkly stones on your ring finger, people will definitely think it’s an engagement ring. 

Post # 5
4196 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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slippersisbae :  I think that your feelings about the ring, tastes, and fit for your lifestyle should be more heavily considered since you’re the one who will be wearing the ring every day! I remember my now husband being surprised that I wanted a marquise diamond because square and circle cuts were/are more popular, but he got me the shape that I wanted and he understood better once he saw how well it complemented my fingers. Best of luck!  

Post # 6
29 posts

My ring is the simplest solitaire imaginable. I chose it because this is a ring I plan to wear every day for the rest of my life. More stones and a more high-profile, intricate setting often means more opportunities for things to go wrong. For an occasional ring, I would be fine going with something fancier. For a ring I plan to wear all the time on my wedding finger, I prefer one that will stand the test of time, both in terms of style and durability. Plus, there’s something so refined about a simple ring. It doesn’t have anything to prove, yet it still looks classy and elegant. I agree with PP; if you plan to pair that ring with a wedding band, finding a match might be tricky. Just something to consider. I love what you’ve chosen!

Post # 7
1971 posts
Buzzing bee

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slippersisbae :  

There’s no such thing as too low key.  It’s all about what you like and what fits your lifestyle.  I don’t think anyone would mistake that ring you posted in particular for being “just any ring.”. If you were to wear it on your wedding/engagement ring finger (usually the left hand depending on what country you’re in) then people will easily recognize it as an engagement ring.  I can the appeal of the design.  You get the security of a bezel setting around your center Stone plus the bling of side stones.  But as food for thought, my first thought when I saw the ring was regarding what a PITA it is going to be to get a wedding band to accompany that ring without a huge awkward gap or be custom made and then soldered.  I, personally, would want to avoid that hassle and do I would steer myself to other designs that have similar elements without the hassle.  There are lovely bezel settings offered by multiple companies that come with or without side stones.  There are also bypass settings (the wrap around the center Stone) that leave space underneath for a wedding band to fit in and sit flush with the engagement ring.  Same beauty, fewer complications down the road when you do wedding band shopping.  Just my two cents.  Ultimately, get what you love.  Take advantage of return windows no matter what you choose.  Wear it for a bit, go to the mall and try wedding bands next to whatever you choose to be sure you know that something will work with it that makes you happy.  Oh, for moissanite, I recommend also being fire that whatever setting you go with gives you full and easy access to the stone(s) for cleaning since moissanite can oxidize, which is what causes the “oil slick” staining.  I’ve gotten two moissanite rings and in both cases chose settings that gave me easy access to the top, sides and bottom pavilion of the stone for cleaning in anticipation that staining may occur over time.  Best of luck!

Post # 8
13536 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You’re the only ones who have to like it. Personally I prefer the focus to be on a center stone with a thinner band and a simple setting. I’d find this setting to be uncomfortably wide and bulky to wear. For me, I find that width is a greater barometer of comfort than height. 

Post # 9
1223 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

It’s beautiful.  

Post # 10
2283 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

It definitely reads engagememt/ wedding to me. I feel like it could stand alone without a wedding band – it has the feel of both.


Post # 11
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

You are the only person in the world it has to suit. Your husband should give you the ring you love (subject to his budget), not the ring he thinks maybe he ought to prefer.

For what it’s worth, I fell in love at first sight with a single-stone, bezel-set, very low ring–which he gave me, though I think he found it baffling–and I’ve remained in love with it for 35 years.

And you don’t need a band. I think the ring you like would be great solo.

Post # 12
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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slippersisbae :  that is beautiful. I agree with 
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charlie057 :  about a straight band likely not fitting against it well, but that shoukd be a band that goes with it, ive seen that style with a contour band but i can’t remember what websits it was on now

Post # 13
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I love it, and think it could easily be worn alone as a combo e-ring/wedding ring. I don’t think it even needs a wedding band.

Post # 14
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

I hope you don’t call him Mr atm to his face!

If you like low profile and he likes high profile, just remember YOU will be wearing it every day and he will never once wear it. Your comfort is more important. I would hate a high profile ring! 

Post # 15
81 posts
Worker bee

It’s a great choice! It looks like a sleek, modernized version of the classic engagement rings of the 50s and 60s, so it screams engagement to me. I agree with Jazzylove that it could easily stand on its own. 

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