(Closed) Is my ring too big? Aquamarine

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
43 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you should follow your first mind, regardless of what your jeweler says. If you are the least bit skeptical about the size, I’d consider downsizing. It’s better to draw that conclusion now whether than later.

Post # 4
14 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow,  so beautiful and…unique!!!

Post # 5
1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

My ring is really big too, but since my hands and fingers are on the larger size I find that small rings look ridiculous on me. But I think that you’re gem will be very, very exposed in that type of setting and Aquamarine is softer and can chip. My topaz has a small chip from when I banged it on a counter top. It’s not that noticable but I know it’s there. Have you looked at smaller aquamarine rings?

Post # 6
3162 posts
Sugar bee

@hirokocchi:  I think it looks very pretty, however, it would be too big for me personally. Go with your instincts though. If you like it, rock it and rock it well! (no pun intended)

Post # 7
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That is gorgeous!  An aquamarine is beryl (like an emerald).  An individual stone is going to be 7.5-8 on the Mohs hardness scale; it’s right below sapphires and rubies, which are right below diamonds.  Have you ever done one of those kits in science class where you scratch different materials to determine their hardness?  Makes you really nervous about wearing anything sort of soft (like a moonstone).

But, having said that, my wedding band has 4 tiny aquas in it.  My engagement ring was originally going to be aqua, and I have an aqua (about half that size, but still big enough to scratch) that I’ve worn while washing dishes, playing softball, banged against walls, etc. (I’m a March baby in a family that likes jewelry).  I’m pretty comfortable with wearing them every day.  

It will eventually scratch if it comes up against the wrong material with enough force, and yours is big enough that it makes a bigger target.  If you can’t stand the thought of anything happening to it ever, it’s better to be safer and go with a smaller stone.  If you’re willing to take the risk, though…remember that even diamonds can shatter or fall out.  I’ve known many people who have had a smaller diamond fall out of a ring.  I have a three-stone that lost a diamond.  There is no guarantee that any of us will keep the same exact stones on our rings for the rest of our lives, no matter how safe a choice we make.  That’s why all of the wedding sites recommend you insure your rings.

Post # 8
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@michiru4ever:  +1 on this. I don’t ever think my shiny could be “too big” but I wouldn’t like to chip it and even if you can’t see it, you still know 🙁

Post # 9
28 posts

If you are not worried about it chipping, then go for it. You can buy a diamond and it can chip also, so go with what makes you happy.

Post # 10
4996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

It is big (and gorgeous!!), but only you can decide if it’s too big for you. 

Post # 11
3518 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Stunning, I love aqumarine, I have side stones in my ring that are aquamarine… I love it, but I don’t think I could wear something that big every day forever. I’m a huge clutz and would probably damage it on day one, or possibly somehow injure myself with it…

Post # 12
1762 posts
Buzzing bee

I feel obligated to comment because of my username! 

You asked if your gem was too big and that you intended it for every day use. Mine is not nearly as big as the one you’re considering so I can’t comment on the chipping or scratches (mine doesn’t have any… Yet). However, I just can’t see how it could be comfortable to wear every day and avoid banging it into things. Other bees with aquamarines have also noted in other threads that theirs get dingy with wear and need to be cleaned often.

Though I think you are considering a beautiful, beautiful gem, I personally wouldn’t choose this for an everyday ring. I think you’d be better off with one about half the size – still big, but much more manageable.

Post # 13
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

First off welcome to the hive and congrats on your engagement. I am a March baby and love Aquas…every one I have owned did chip and scratch. I would be very nevous of the size because like the PP said it is such a big target for something to hit it etc.

Good luck on ur decision and congrats again!

Post # 14
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

imho, it looks like costume jewelry. 

Post # 15
7321 posts
Busy Beekeeper

If you’re all about wearing and enjoying the stone as your engagement ring, you’re probably going to have to reconsider the setting. My advice, go with a platinum bezel. Your stone will be low set and more enclosed, therefore protected. Aquamarine can be worn daily, but you will likely need to change your expectations on what is the best setting for it.

Post # 16
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

As someone who also wants a soft stone for e-ring I share your concern 🙁

I do think that setting is going to be a problem with a soft stone. From personal experience I have learned that if I want a huge honkin stone {which I do!} I need to have a low set halo.

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