- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2000
regular bee going anonymous to protect myself from those who know me…
My husband and I are starting to really worry about his sister. She’s been with the same guy for 10 years. They aren’t married. They aren’t engaged. They have no children.
We’ve started to notice that when we see my SIL, she’s a totally different person when her boyfriend is around vs. when she’s just with her family without him. She goes from her happy-go-lucky bubbly self to this sullen MEAN human being when he’s around. She’s told us that this guy frequently goes to australia on “business” but he’s gone for like… 3 days… isn’t the flight to australia 3 days??
Her friends are actually all of his friends and they apparently all have told her that this guy has no desire to marry him and she really wants to get married. She once told her cousin that the boyfriend talks to his ex 3-4 times a day.
So ok its not sounding too terrible yet, but I called her last week to get a recipe and she was asking her boyfriend if he saw the recipe box (granted she must have asked him 3 times) and he screamed at her- over-the-top roared at her to “shut the f*ck up and find the f*cking box herself, lazy c*nt”.
My husband recently found out that his sister is on prescription anti-depressents (if you met this girl without the guy, you would think she’d actually need some valum she’s so bubbly) and that the boyfriend builds guns in his basement because he’s apparently lost his 5th job and thinks he can make a living building and selling guns.
After he told me that, we both started thinking that maybe she was actually scared to leave him. She’s thought about leaving him in the past but never does, and now we’re wondering just how bad things are… things just seem to get worse and worse.
So do you think we have any cause for alarm or are we not giving this guy a fair chance and are reading too much into this?? I’m just starting to get very concerned for her. It’s more than just her not being happy… there just seems to be more to it.
I apologize for this being so long, but I wanted to try and get the most details I could out of this. Any advice is appreciated.