- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
I was in your position once, after 4 years together he started this relationship (friendship) with this girl “who got him and they were really close”
It drove me crazy, it really upset me, I felt emotionally cheated on, he told me I was the crazy one, that nothing was going on, that I was wrong… I couldn’t take it, i ended things.
Guess who he was banging two weeks later.
Any update OP??
oh man I rember this thread… shes not coming back guys!! 🙁
Yes, I certainly will too. I’ve also got my eye out for that year old thread with the recent tease post by the OP (it’s about the poster’s friend’s “nasty reaction” to her engagement).
I guess this interest seems sort of gossipy, but I so love to know how the posters’ stories turn out. Otherwise it’s like reading a novel with the last chapter ripped out! Just when you’re all invested in the character…
I probably need a life, haha.
Maybe OP was smarter than me tho and left him sooner… but I guess we’ll never know.
This being said and what I’m getting at after reading more of this thread is you definitely stop letting this doche walk all over you. If he really cared about your feelings, he would do as you asked. Or like in mine and heputaringonit’s case, just ask right off the bat if he should change anything.
I went through a similar situation with my husband. He had an emotional affair with an ex girlfriend whilst we were dating, and I found out about it two years into our marriage. It felt like my whole world got turned upside down. Everything I had felt about our relationship (love, trust, fidelity)…many of the reasons I said yes to marriage, was shaken. I lost 25 lbs in a few months and couldnt stop feeling nauseous and throwing up. The doctors could find nothing wrong with me.
It is funny how it takes us finding out about it for it to come up. I wonder if he would ever have told me. Thankfully (from what he has told me) his affair ended when we got engaged, but I am still not sure I believe it was just emotional. Unfortunately there is only so long you can keep hashing up problems like this without it taking a toll on your marriage. I am just now starting to “get over the affair” (6 months later) but it has turned me from a confident wife into a jealous and suspicious one. I try hard to fight the feelings, and have sought therapy for it because I just have not gotten the closure I need from him. He shut down every time I brought it up and I had to drag answers out of him. It felt like pulling teeth. Eventually I resigned to the fact that he would never tell me what I wanted to hear. Which is why he could do something like that when we were “happy” enough that he put a ring on my finger a few months later. How could he betray our relatuonship that way and expect me to trust him? He argues it happened years ago and before we got married but that doesnt change that I just found out about it months ago.
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