Post # 1
I’ve been with my partner for about 10 months now and we are moving in together in 2 months (YAY!).
Anyway – 2 months ago he was chatting to me about baby names and wrote them down in his phone. Then, 2 weeks ago he tells me his preference in wedding bands, asks me mine and when I told him the 6week budget rule he joked “well all you’re getting is a gold band at this rate”.
However whenever I ask him what he sees in our future he tells me to chill out and that he hasn’t thought about it… What’s up?
Post # 3
Hmmm I know when my Fiance and I were dating we used to joke around about baby names and whatnot. He never asked me about rings like that though… I can think of two things (might be way off base):
1. He likes the idea of discussing a future without actually being ready JUST yet. He may be trying to get a feel for your reaction to some of this.
2. Maybe he really wants to take another step, but doesn’t want to risk ruining a good thing since it’s only been 10 months? I’m not sure if he feels that’s short or not… If the comments to chill out happened after the 6 week budget joke maybe he wants to hold off on discussion until he can afford something better than just a gold band?
If it really bugs you I would maybe wait a few days and then tell him that you really want to have a talk because you feel like you have mixed signals. Mixed signals are not a good thing to have and can hamper other areas of communication. You could tell him you don’t need a definite answer on anything. You would just want to know his general feelings perhaps?