Post # 1
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Helper bee
Three weeks til the wedding and I find myself getting a bit snappy with certain people. But not everyone. So even though I freely admit that my temper is a bit shorter than usual, I’m beginning to wonder if the things people are saying are actually getting dumber, and that’s why they’re pissing me off! Cripes, why do people have such stupid things to say about weddings?!?!?!?! I noticed the snappiness most at Fi’s and my running club last night.
Example 1: Even though I ALWAYS run, and usually pretty fast, I’ve decided to do the shorter walking trail until the wedding so I don’t trip on a root and break my leg or something. So people ask me why I’m not running. I don’t mind this — I would have asked me as well. But then this conversation happens, not once but with THREE different people:
Idiot: How come you’re walking tonight?
Me: Don’t wanna break my leg before the wedding! Walking is safer.
Idiot: What, you mean you don’t want to go down the aisle on crutches? THAT WOULD BE HILARIOUS! Imagine the pictures! It’d be a story you’d tell forever!
Me: No, I really do not think it would be funny to spend my wedding day miserable and in pain and not get to dance or enjoy any of it. *glare*
Example 2: Another idiot shares his opinion on my decision to walk the trail.
Idiot: I can’t believe you’re walking! Most brides would be running as much as possible leading up to their wedding, to lose some weight and fit into their dress!
Me: Are you implying that I need to lose weight to fit into my dress? *glare*
Example 3: Someone wants to invite us to a party on June 1. I grin and say of course we can’t make it; we’ll be having our rehearsal dinner!
Idiot: Oh wow, that’s right! I can’t believe it’s coming up so quick!
Me: I know!
Idiot: So you guys can’t even stop by for a while? Even for a few minutes?
Me: … no. No, we will not be leaving our friends and family the night before our wedding to stop by your party for a few minutes.
Idiot: Maybe just Fi can stop by?
Me: *jaw moves up and down but no words emerge*
SERIOUSLY IS IT JUST ME??? I’m doing my best to keep my temper in check, but sometimes you just gotta point out what a dumb thing someone has just said. It’s like a public service. And don’t even get me started on the people who have “hilariously” offered to edit my vows for me. Yes yes, what could be funnier than offering to read the most personal thing I’ve ever written, even though you’re not invited to the wedding?? YOU’RE SO FUNNY I PUKED! 
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Umm except for that last example it’s just stress getting to you. Take a wedding planning day off and do something for yourself. That always helps me.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
Haha….people are so….”funny”!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I think the people that are getting on my nerves are the ones who just don’t seem to think that getting married is a serious thing. Yeah, Fi and I are ALWAYS joking around and we are always the ones doing the stupid and funny thing that people will tell stories about later. But our wedding isn’t some house party where it’s hilarious to get hammered and run around with your pants on your head. We’re tying our lives together forever, in an extremely traditional ceremony in front of close family and friends. This isn’t a camping trip where everyone gets drunk and tries naked fire-jumping!
“You should have a strippy cup table set up at the reception! That would be HILAROUS!”
Yes, yes it would. GROAN!
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@bricon: Umm except for that last example it’s just stress getting to you.
Agreed. The last one was weird but the first ones just sound like people being friendly and making funny jokes.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Great…now I am imagining strippy cup at my wedding, and I can’t stop laughing. Naked fire jumping is for rugby parties, not weddings.
Completely understand your “taking it easy” before the wedding- I think it is a little stress on the first two examples. The last one… a guy said that, right?
Post # 8
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Helper bee
@MrsWrangler: I know they’re just trying to be funny, but it really truly is irritating me that people seem to think I wouldn’t take my own wedding seriously. I guess I’m wondering if there’s a polite way to tell them that. I’m sick of listening to jokes about how my Fi is going to get drunk and pass out on the ground outside (no, he isn’t) and how I should wear XYZ ridiculous item on my head (no, I won’t). While I think 90% of things in the world are funny, I don’t find anything funny about the act of getting married. I sort of wish people got that, know what I mean?
Post # 9
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Helper bee
@rebwana: “Wow Grandma, you’re not very good at this game, are you?” 
Post # 10
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Busy bee
Is your running group an H3?
And people say stupid things. Try not to stress over it 🙂
Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’ve been the same way lately and I have months to go. I just feel so overwhelmed with things right now, too busy, and still trying to get time to plan for the wedding. It’s been crazy! The other day one of the guys (a co-worker) popped his head in my office and started to joke around with me like always, and I snapped at him, “Don’t even start that crap with me right now!” I’m sure he thinks I’m a total bitch right now. This morning he said, “Good morning, Stuck-Up.” I had to cajole him out of being pissed off at me. ARGH! So, I feel ya!!
Post # 12
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Worker bee
if your normally the one that makes jokes or finds these things funny, it doesn’t surprise me that they would make these jokes now – people tend to not understand context. So if you may be the person who would put something silly on their head at a party, but OF COURSE wouldn’t dream of doing that at your wedding you can understand why someone might not understand why you are suddenly being so “sensitive” (mind you I don’t think your being sensitive – but it is how it can come across to others).
My advice take a breath and just let it go – not easy trust me I know!!! But it will make you crazy obsessing over the stupid things people say. Some people need to be reminded (if you think they might be the ones to place something silly on their head at your wedding, or get drunk and pass out on the way it (or worse try to get your Fiance that way)) that your wedding isn’t a party. Please do so very gently and calmly that you are celebrating your marriage which is traditional and will be in front of my families who are traditional.
Blaming it on parents (grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc) that it will not be a “party” but a traditional ceremony won’t stop the jokes but it may stop any ridiculous behavior.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
I totally know what’s going on with you.
You’re on your period.
I KID, I KID!!! 😛
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@PinkFlemingo: The third one is really dumb, the second was insensitive, but I truly don’t understand being upset by the first one. WAY overreacting, IMO.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
@PinkFlemingo: OMG. Hilarous. I love how you refer to everyone as “idiot” so fitting hahaha 🙂 Thanks for giving me a laugh in the middle of studying
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
@mightywombat: This.
The first person was being funny. They’re probably used to you being a fun-loving, jokey person.
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