Post # 1
I need your opinion and recommendations. The woman I am working with at my wedding venue has asked for two personal checks written out directly in her name, rather than to the venue itself. This seems shady to me and like she might be trying to get more money out of us without her employer knowing and/or without being taxed. One of the checks she called a “staffing fee,” and the next one was after asking to be able to get into the venue 30 minutes earlier to accomodate a vendor’s schedule. The first fee was tagged on in hand-writing at the bottom of the contract– which I found strange, but we really needed the venue and so we paid it. The second was not mentioned in the contract (but then again there was no mention of cost of adding on time in the contract or anywhere else). It’s a small garden venue and she is one of only a few employees, but I know that she does have at least one manager above her.
It just strikes me as strange that she wants personal checks written out directly to her rather than to her employer. If these were legitimate fees, wouldn’t they go to the venue?? The amounts are relatively small in wedding budget terms– $225 between two checks– but… it still strikes me as change.
The wedding is this Saturday, so I don’t really want to kick up a fuss about it and cause drama– or worse, risk having her refuse to cooperate and then ruin the reception. I’ve already had a nightmare occur with a dishonest photographer for our engagement party who the night before the party demanded an extra $300, which we refused to pay, so we didn’t have photography for the party and are going to small claims court to get our deposit back… I can handle not having a photographer for an engagement party, but if somehow my wedding venue falls through 4 days before the wedding I’m truly screwed!!
What do you think? Is it typical for employees of the venue to ask for checks made out to them pesronally? And if not, what should I do? Maybe I should wait until after the wedding and then contact her manager?
Post # 2
Nope thats weird. I’d definitely have a chat with her manager.
Post # 3
Never, and I mean NEVER, pay for anything with a check wrote to an employee. All checks should clearly have the company’s name written on them. And if you’re really concerned, ask to speak to a manager.
Post # 4
That sounds weird unless she’s the owner and even then she would likely need to have payments to the business. I’d investigate further.
Post # 5
None of this sounds right. Also you don’t change a contract by writing things on it.
Post # 7
cciskate : The only situation I’ve ever heard about this was at our church where our ceremony was. We wrote checks out directly to the wedding facilitator, the sound technician, and the lighting technician. The difference in our situation and yours is that we wrote the checks out to those people, but the church distributed the checks – so we gave all of the checks to one person when settling up our final payment to them. Their reasoning behind this is because since they are a non profit, they can’t technically charge us for their services, but their employees still have to be paid. This was all also outlined in our contract with the church, and we were issued a receipt for all of these checks. I would call whoever is above the woman you are working with.
Post # 8
Before or after the wedding? I only ask because it’s in 4 days!! I probably shouldn’t have agreed to the personal check written out to her in the contract, but I figured it was a one-off thing and I wasn’t going to stress about it or cause strife because we just needed it to work.
But it’s so close to the wedding I’m afraid of creating drama that could possibly ruin the day!
Post # 9
I would not mention it until after the wedding. No reason to rock the boat this close to the wedding.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
cciskate : When are your payments due? This sounds really shady and I would contact her manager before paying, but would wait until after the wedding if possible