Post # 1
I will keep this one quick- my budget is 10k for my wedding of ~100 people and my venue will eat up about $3500 of this. The venue cost includes:
ceremony and reception space, set up and takedown 6.5 hours of event time along with 1.5 hours of set up time
all linens and tables, lights, kitchen to warm food in, food trays and small centerpieces
some decorations (I would not buy anything else but possibly centerpieces and other functional things, like the guestbook)
The rest of my budget:
dress- paid for by mom
food- Father-In-Law is catering
Hair and makeup $1200 (great lengths extensions- is this too much? The quotes I have been getting are around 1000 for the extensions and installation)
Flowers-$500 (family friend does flowers for us at cost)
Invites and cake- $550
Servers and tips- $2000
Any feedback on how reasonable/feasible this is would be great along with things I might have overlooked.
Post # 3
Well if you add all that up its more than $10 k. I’d cut down on the hair and makeup! $1200?!?!? That’s insane!
Post # 4
I get that you are getting hair extensions, but spending that much on just hair and makeup is hard to swallow for me, and I spent more than 4x what you are spending on my wedding.
If $10k is really your budget, you are $1750 over. If your budget is firm, I would get rid of the limo and either rent a nicer luxury car for the day or do without. I think your alcohol budget may be able to budge a little, although you didn’t say what are you planning to serve. Again, I think you may have to budget on hair and makeup too. I don’t like cutting from photography and everything else is very lean or free.
Post # 5
Unless my math is off all that adds up to more than 10k, so I guess if you’re set on sticking to that amount, its too much for a venue.
Post # 6
Regardless of the budget, to spend 12% of it on hair and makeup is just way out of balance. Even moreso when your alcohol budget is just half of the hair budget.
I think your estimate for invites and cake is too low too.
You may want to ditch the limo in favor of more cost-effective transportation, scale way back on the hair/makeup and increase your alcohol, cake and invites budget. You’ll still be over budget but at least you will have more realistic distribution of the costs.
You should also factor in the groom’s attire, and the groomsmen’s attire, and a small slush fund for “incidentals’ as you will no doubt want to buy new shoes, undergarments, perhaps a small purse, etc to go with your gown; you may want/need jewelry for yourself; if you are asking the bridesmaids to wear a specific jewelry then you should cover that; and the dozens and dozens of small things that just sort of turn up when you’re planning a wedding. Heck, 100 invites are going to be at least $50 in postage, perhaps several times that if they are large and heavy.
Post # 7
Ur probably going to end up going waaaay over 10k cuz there’s a ton of stuff to think about that u don’t have listed (I didn’t add that all up so I don’t know if it came to 10k or not). I just know my 10k budget practically doubled and I’m only having 30 guests and no bridal party. I’m also doing destination but costs r not much different than what vendors charge at home.
Post # 8
Invitations, postage, officiant, favors, bridal party apparel and gifts, rehearsal dinner….the list can just go on and on.
Post # 9
My budget is roughly 10k- so if it goes over by 1 or 2k, it isn’t a huge deal. 5k extra would be a huge deal.
ETA: I have very thin and fine hair that is very difficult to manage and would not look good down (which is what my Fiance really wants to see me in- I’m a ballet dancer and my hair is always up) due to how thin/limp it is. I have always wanted extensions, and I was justifying the cost before by thinking the extensions would last months- they aren’t just for that day, and I was wanting to buy them anyways. I have just been putting it off since I got engaged to save it for the wedding. Now though I am starting to rethink them… they were just the one thing that was so important to me, and the cost of good extentions unfortunately is very expensive.
Also, my wedding is for 70-100 guests and my alcohol will include beer and sangria.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsBH: I paid more than that for my Great Length and IMO, don’t do it. Go buy some nice clip ins for the wedding. While yes, it was nice to have a instant length, I wouldn’t do it again! Too much upkeep, takes longer to dry, when they grow out its awful. Thats just my opinion but if I were you I would scale back and use part of that $$ elsewhere.
Post # 11
U cn get fusion extension with good long length for much cheaper than that, especially of u hav nvr had them before I doubt u will keep them in as long as u imagine bcz the upkeep irritation etc cn b unbearable to sum
Post # 12
I’d get rid of the limo, that seems like a waste of money to me. $3500 for the venue seems a little high but ok. I would negotiate it down to $3,000.
Post # 13
food is a huge expense that you need to consider in there as well. my ceremony place and food is $4500. $3000 of that is just the venue the food makes up the rest and we are having about 100 people as well.
although i just reread it and see that your Father-In-Law is doing it. is he gifting it or do you have to pay?
also $2,000 for servers and tips? what is taht for?
and like everyone else is saying $1,200 is a lot for hair but if it means that much to you I guess you’ll have to rebudget for stuff.
Post # 14
That must be a really amazing venue if they’re charging $3500 and not providing centrepieces or servers or a DOC. Does that include tax and gratuity? With the cost of servers, your venue costs are actually $5500 without any F&B. For a 10K wedding, I think that’s quite a disproportionate amount to spend on just the venue alone.
Post # 15
@FutureMrsBH: that is alot of $$ you can find a caterer that includes all linens and china silver wear. find a venue that your renting just the space that has chairs and tables and a free ceremony area. if you dont mind me asking what area are you in?
Post # 16
@FutureMrsBH: get rid of the limo and spend some of that that on gifts for the bridesmaids. if they are paying for their dreses and shoes, then I would at least buy them a present. Handmade gifts dont always go over too well unless you are amazing at making something. And I agree with PPs on the hair and makeup. I’m spending $400 and I thought that was a crap ton.