(Closed) Is my wedding date offensive?! Please help!!!

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

 

This is certainly not offensive! Sorry, I don’t mean this in a mean way, but I feel like I see people on the bee use the word offensive in the wrong way rather frequently! Obviously, you mean inconvenient, etc. So yes, perhaps it is inconvenient and I don’t think you’re really going to save any money this way, but not offensive. 

 

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@June_bee13:  definitely not offensive…but you will probably have some people who will have other plans for memorial day weekend, so just keep that in mind and you’ll be fine 🙂

Post # 73
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Helper bee

I’m in a wedding on labor day weekend this year and I didn’t get offended. She did ask her most important guest if they had any vacations plans but everyone was okay with it. She also sent her save the dates early so put would get a heads up.

I’m not offended by it at all

Post # 74
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@June_bee13:  I think a couple of people have already said it – but Sundays of a 3 day weekend are usually not discounted (at least in my area).   Also a lot of Jewish couples like to get married on Sundays of a 3 day weekend because Saturday is the Sabbath and a lot of conservative Rabbis will not marry them before sun-down on Sat, so the three-day weekend Sunday wedding allows people to party hardy and not have to worry about work the next day.  

 

Places like NYC, Long Island, Boston, Newport will usually NOT discount a Sunday wedding of the 3-day weekend especially in the summer.  

 

On the other hand, since you are planning a long engagement, it will stop people from having vacations previously booked around the 3-day – so the sooner you send out those Save-The-Dates the better.  

 

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldn’t have a problem with it- I went to a wedding on the Sunday of last Labor Day Weekend. But, as others have mentioned, it may not save you money. Every venue that we looked at charged regular Saturday prices for Sundays on holiday weekends. 

Also, keep in mind that if you have a lot of guests traveling, flights and hotels will be more expensive.

Post # 76
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@June_bee13:  I’m getting married July 5, the day after July 4th. At first it made me a bit nervous because it’s a three day weekend but I haven’t heard any negative backlash from it! 

I don’t see any issue with it because I don’t have set things I do on MDW or July 4th, but if I had to choose the two, I would definitely choose the July 3rd date. 

Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

No, it’s not offensive. I’m with a few other bees though in that it might not actually be cheaper on a Sunday prior to a holiday and it will likely actually cost your guests more if they need to fly in/get hotel room. Even if they are driving they might encounter some bad traffic. Most of my family and friends specifically don’t travel around the holidays because of cost/time. 

Of the two dates you’re looking at, I’d prefer the Memorial Day weekend. That is just a long weekend to me whereas July 4th we usually have at least some sort of plan to do something. Also, because July 4th doesn’t always fall on a weekend, people might be more inclined to throw a bigger party or make other plans than when it falls midweek. 

Post # 78
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nope, not at all – weddings on long weekends are great! And honestly, I don’t think it’s “inconsiderate” at all – couples can schedule their weddings whenever they want and it’s the guests’ choice to go. Guests don’t get to be offended by the date of the wedding and to complain about it being inconvenient is (in my opinion) rude. As much as weddings (at least – the reception) are more for guests a lot of the time, you can’t plan your day around everybody else’s demands. If they can’t make it for whatever reason, then they politely decline and that should be the end of it. (this is a pet peeve of mine haha)

Post # 79
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had my wedding on the Sunday before Labor Day and it worked out great. We got to spend some extra time with guests because we had a long weekend!

I chose to go this route because we had so many Out of Town guests, this gaev everyone more time to travel and not be so rushed to get back home. However, I didn’t really get much in the way of discounts for having it on a Sunday. So I wouldn’t count on that. But I think it’s great for Out of Town guests!

Post # 80
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2002

Not offensive, but several factors could affect your attrndance numbers.  Where do you live, and are there many out of town guests invited?  I live in a tourist destination, and the Sunday before Memorial (and Labor) Day demand very high rates for hotels, higher than normal weekends.  So in saving yourself some money, your out of town guests may be facing higher costs, hours of traffic, etc.  If most of your guests are local, they may be thrilled!  

Post # 82
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Busy bee

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@peachacid:  +1. We generally go to the cottage on long weekends, so even if I wanted to attend, we are never in town. 

Post # 83
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

major holiday weekend will be more expensive for travel since lots of people travel on those days.  you might not find a sunday in a holiday weekend is any less expensive because of the holiday

supple and demand.

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@June_bee13:  It’s not “tacky” but – it is interferring with a lot of people’s summer vacation plans. And some people with either 1) choose to not come or 2) come, but might begrudge it. I would try to either pick a Sunday not on a summer holiday weekend (like Columbus Day or Presidents Day) or just go with a regular Sat. or Sun.

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@June_bee13:  No, that’s an awesome idea.  And once you’re actually engaged and start the planning process, you’ll see that you HAVE to do things that work for YOU!

We had our hearts set on a Saturday October wedding?  Well guess what, it was oodles cheaper to jump into the first week of November and cheaper still to do a Friday rather than Saturday or Sunday, so that’s what we’re doing!  Sure it could be inconvenient for people to leave early or take off work, but it’s 1 day.  Not only that, but we are having a small-ish wedding with close friends and family, so I believe they don’t mind making the effort! 

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