(Closed) Is my wedding date offensive?! Please help!!!

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 86
Member
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@June_bee13:  Haha.  We had our wedding on a Sunday of Labor Day weekend.  If people were offended by it, then they didn’t need to come.  Everyone else had a blast because they didn’t have to work the next day, AND my bridal party thanked me so they didn’t have to miss work for the rehearsal.

Post # 87
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1465 posts
Bumble bee

It does NOT matter what any of us think.  What matters is what your VIP’s think.  This far out it may be hard to get an honest answer from them.

I really encourage you to ask them, but don’t say “Hey you would come to my Memorial Day Weekend or 4th of July weekend wedding, right?” That puts people in a corner and they want to make you happy so they will say yes.  Ask them, “Hey, I need a really  honest answer here so that we make the best plans possible.  How would feel about attending a Memorial Day or 4th of July Weekend wedding?  Be really honest…”  Then you will get a better answer. 

If you were to ask me here is how it would go (I don’t have standing plans for Memorial Day Weekend, but I do for the 4th of July).  If I had to travel on a holiday weekend and book expensive hotel rooms because of holiday rates I would most likely decline.  If you were local and maybe only one hotel night – sure!  For the 4th of July – I have standing plans with my family and I am not missing that for a wedding.

As long as your VIPs are dead honest with you and you really listen to what they say, then you will make the best decision possible.  We can’t help you with that.  If  you had said Memorial Day itself I would have said absolutely not, but you didn’t so I hope it all works out for you.

Post # 88
Member
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@June_bee13:  I don’t think it is offensive and if it were an out of town wedding I would be more inclined to go. I have heard of people being upset that they have to dedicate their 3-day weekend to a wedding. If people complain or don’t like it, they don’t have to come.

Post # 89
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5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@June_bee13:  No. It’s not tacky. It’s smart! Saturday weddings cost a fortune. If your loved ones can’t sacrifice one day, then they have problems. 

Post # 90
Member
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

this wouldn’t bother me at all!! one of my closest friends is getting married labor day weekend and making a whole sat-sun festivities type of thing and im SO excited to do everything she is planning.. however, some people may not be as into as others.. but honestly, if people WANT to be there, they will be! do what works best for you two.

Post # 91
Member
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We got married the Sunday before Labor Day and it was perfect, it allowed people who had to travel more time to be in town and everything was just a lot more inexpensive as well from all the vendors.

Post # 92
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee

@Rubbs:  Keep in mind that is sacrificing a 3 day weekend, not just one day.  It works for many, and for others it doesn’t, and that is ok.

My nephew got married the Friday night of Memorial Day Weekend 3 years ago and that was awesome!  Many commented about still having their entire holiday weekend to go do something or just relax.

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