Post # 1
I’m getting some push back from people and hearing that my wedding party is too big.
I have three maids of honor, one matron of honor, 5 bridesmaids, 1 Jr, bridesmaid, 4 best men, 5 groomsmen, a flower girl, a ring bearer, and like 6 ushers. I have a large family with lots of siblings so it was just hard for me to tell some of them no. The guest list keeps growing (but we are anticipating about 250-300) but we can manage that part because of some things we are planning to do (I’m a DIY bride and we, along with are families, are preparing all of the reception food).
Is it true that some of these people will fall off as the wedding grows near (no money for dresses/tux, etc.)? Or should I have been more realistic? I’m making all of their jewelry and gifts myself, so should it matter that I have a large bridal party???
Post # 3
Umm yeah, that’s way too many. BUt you can do whatevre you want. Just remember that you have to provide flowers, and gifts for each and every one of them. Also note how hellish it may be picking out a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and getting them to pay for it.
Post # 4
Everyone is different, I personally think anything more then 6 on each side is too much. Having said I know someone who had 14 BMs
Post # 5
I think you should have as many people as you want in your bridal party. Logistically this sounds like a nightmare to me (dress shopping, pics, gifts) but I understand not wanting to hurt people’s feelings. I will say that when you have multiple Best Men, Maids of Honor, etc the title starts to lose its “specialness”.
Post # 6
That’s okay to express yourself and put importance on family- perhaps you should choose one Maid/Matron of Honor, having 3 is a little strange plus a matron of honor… I mean are all 4 going to hold your train? Pull straws if it comes down to people complaining about favoritism… the 4 best men are sort of odd too. The point of saying Maid/Matron of Honor, Best man is to single out someone, not to single out 4 people.
That being said, I have 7 Bridesmaids, my Fiance has 6 men, so I am obviously in favor of large parties.
Post # 7
I think that things would jsut be too complicated with so many in your bridal party. Maybe you could find another way to acknowledge these eople wihtout them actually being in the party.
Post # 8
that is way too big. 4 best men?! did you already ask all of these people?
Post # 9
Yes, I think WAY too many. 8 honor attendants? Honestly, you probably should’ve kept the wedding party to those people and picked one from each side to be MOH/BM. The people close to you can be part of the day without actually being in the wedding party. It will also get a little difficult for those people to plan anything for you because no one will know whose responsibility it is, or who’s in charge. And with that many people it’ll be much harder to get consensus on anything (like bm dresses) or what kind of shower to have, etc. And I wouldn’t count on many people dropping out – usually once someone commits to being in the wedding party they have an idea what’s involved and feel obligated.
But I assume you’ve asked them already, so there’s probably not much you can do about it.
Post # 10
ITS YOUR WEDDING!!! so if you think its fien then it is! we have 10 bm and 10 gm 3 jr bridesmaids, 3 flower girls, 2 ring bears and 1 jr groom and 1 jr bride. we havea huge family and wanted everyone to be apart of our day! it has been an awesome experience but also a headache keeping track of some many people!
your day will be beautiful no matter how many people you have standing up there! dont let anyone tell you differnt!
Post # 11
@MrsCSH2B: That is alot for me but if it works for you then go for it
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s too many. It’s kind of a too each their own. My aunt and uncle had 21 attendants in all. The pictures are pretty epic.
Post # 13
@MrsStrawberry24: Just curious…what is a Junior Groom and Junior Bride?
Post # 14
Wow, yeah that is way to many and that is way to confusing. I would definately either find them different things to do for your wedding and just weed it down to only a few
Post # 15
Juniors are usually the tweens–too young to be a bridesmaid or groomsman and too old to be flower girl or ring bearer.
Post # 16
It is your wedding… you set whatever tone you would like. If you want that amount of people then by all means this is the only wedding you will ever have, one you have dreamed for, waited on, and now its finally approaching. Who cares what others think. Tell them “its what I want” and be forward. Its none of their concern if you didn’t ask for their opinions.
My wedding is small according to me 5 girls, 5 guys, ring bearer, 3 flower girls. To some it may be a lot, but its NOT THEIR WEDDING. Their job is to sit back, enjoy, and shut up. This is your day. Stop listening to other peoples ideas…. ENJOY “YOUR DAY”!
My aunt and uncle had a wedding party of 75, thats right 75. Because she was sure about who she was and included everybody she ever wanted to…. it was a long wedding, but a fun one… I was one of the 75 and enjoyed it. Our families are large and it was their choice. No One Else’s.
Another aunt had a wedding party of well over 35 people, I was in that one again… A wonderful success …. the list can keep going I have been in lots of weddings….. All in All this is your wedding… and your choice. Be bold girl and Do your thang!!!!