(Closed) Is my wedding party TOO big???

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Umm yeah, that’s way too many. BUt you can do whatevre you want. Just remember that you have to provide flowers, and gifts for each and every one of them. Also note how hellish it may be picking out a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and getting them to pay for it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Everyone is different, I personally think anything more then 6 on each side is too much. Having said I know someone who had 14 BMs

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should have as many people as you want in your bridal party. Logistically this sounds like a nightmare to me (dress shopping, pics, gifts) but I understand not wanting to hurt people’s feelings. I will say that when you have multiple Best Men, Maids of Honor, etc the title starts to lose its “specialness”.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s okay to express yourself and put importance on family- perhaps you should choose one Maid/Matron of Honor, having 3 is a little strange plus a matron of honor… I mean are all 4 going to hold your train? Pull straws if it comes down to people complaining about favoritism… the 4 best men are sort of odd too. The point of saying Maid/Matron of Honor, Best man is to single out someone, not to single out 4 people.

 

That being said, I have 7 Bridesmaids, my Fiance has 6 men, so I am obviously in favor of large parties.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that things would jsut be too complicated with so many in your bridal party. Maybe you could find another way to acknowledge these eople wihtout them actually being in the party.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

that is way too big.  4 best men?!  did you already ask all of these people?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yes, I think WAY too many.  8 honor attendants?  Honestly, you probably should’ve kept the wedding party to those people and picked one from each side to be MOH/BM.  The people close to you can be part of the day without actually being in the wedding party.  It will also get a little difficult for those people to plan anything for you because no one will know whose responsibility it is, or who’s in charge.  And with that many people it’ll be much harder to get consensus on anything (like bm dresses) or what kind of shower to have, etc.  And I wouldn’t count on many people dropping out – usually once someone commits to being in the wedding party they have an idea what’s involved and feel obligated.

But I assume you’ve asked them already, so there’s probably not much you can do about it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

ITS YOUR WEDDING!!! so if you think its fien then  it is! we have 10 bm and 10 gm 3 jr bridesmaids, 3 flower girls, 2 ring bears and 1 jr groom and 1 jr bride. we havea huge family and wanted everyone to be apart of our day! it has been an awesome experience but also a headache keeping track of some many people!

your day will be beautiful no matter how many people you have standing up there! dont let anyone tell you differnt!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsCSH2B: That is alot for me but if it works for you then go for it

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think it’s too many. It’s kind of a too each their own. My aunt and uncle had 21 attendants in all. The pictures are pretty epic.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsStrawberry24:  Just curious…what is a Junior Groom and Junior Bride?  

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, yeah that is way to many and that is way to confusing. I would definately either find them different things to do for your wedding and just weed it down to only a few

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Juniors are usually the tweens–too young to be a bridesmaid or groomsman and too old to be flower girl or ring bearer.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It is your wedding… you set whatever tone you would like. If you want that amount of people then by all means this is the only wedding you will ever have, one you have dreamed for, waited on, and now its finally approaching. Who cares what others think. Tell them “its what I want” and be forward. Its none of their concern if you didn’t ask for their opinions.

My wedding is small according to me 5 girls, 5 guys, ring bearer, 3 flower girls. To some it may be a lot, but its NOT THEIR WEDDING. Their job is to sit back, enjoy, and shut up. This is your day. Stop listening to other peoples ideas…. ENJOY “YOUR DAY”!

My aunt and uncle had a wedding party of 75, thats right 75. Because she was sure about who she was and included everybody she ever wanted to…. it was a long wedding, but a fun one… I was one of the 75 and enjoyed it. Our families are large and it was their choice. No One Else’s.

Another aunt had a wedding party of well over 35 people, I was in that one again… A wonderful success …. the list can keep going I have been in lots of weddings….. All in All this is your wedding… and your choice. Be bold girl and Do your thang!!!!

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