(Closed) Is my wedding party TOO big???

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@MrsCSH2B:its your special day so i say go for it!!!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@MrsCSH2B:It’s YOUR WEDDING so go for it if you think you can handle it. If it fits in your budget to have all of them (remembering flowers, gifts etc) then go for it! Who ever you want to honor you should be able to!

I was worried about mind getting too big so the people “on the edge” I simply made Ushers. That way they are recognized without being in the official wedding party and making it unmanageable for me.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I say it’s go for too!

I am going to be 35!! when I get married next June. I am also the eldest of four , all who have kids and are married. My fiance also has three siblings. We want both families included. I am having a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor (best friend from college and best friend since kindegarten) then my 2 sisters, his sister, and another one of my good friends. He will have 6 on his side (two brothers (one of which is his best man), my brother & three good friends from college).  We then have our neices (3 as flower girls) and nephews (2 as ring b.)

Yes it’s a big party, but could not imagine excluding one of these people from our day. After many years of dreaming of this day, and finally meeting the love of my life I would not have it any other way.

It’s your day to enjoy and make it your own πŸ™‚

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

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@vmec:  <— this

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think crazy large parties tend to be the hallmark of younger brides.  While not all do it, I’ve noticed a trend to smaller, more intimate wedding parties as people get married 30+.  The most recent wedding I attended there was only a best man and a maid of honor.

If you’ve already invited them, I wouldn’t back out now, but yes, I think that’s waaaay too many, evoking images from 27 Dresses.  Think of it this way – you are asking 11% of the wedding guests (27/250) to stand up with you (14% when you add in 3 dads, 2 moms, bridal couple).  Who is going to be left sitting in the chairs?

If I were asked to be in your party, I would not feel special.  (I also would say to cut it down to ONE, or at most two, MOH/Best Man.  That likely might mean your best friend of 25 years.  I was not Maid/Matron of Honor at my sister’s wedding, just a bridesmaid, and I was ok with that.)

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yeah, I think you’ve given a good explanation for all of them, and like PP’s have said, “it’s your wedding!” but…in all honesty, if I were at your wedding, I would be thinking, “10 girls? how can she actually be ‘close friends’ with that many people!?” Yeah, it kind of evokes images of girls right out of high school who are asking all their BFF’s to be in their wedding party, who haven’t realized yet that Real Life happens and you won’t always have a million friends. But anyhow, if you’re really close to all of them, then awesome! πŸ™‚

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think its easier said than done to have that many in your bridal party. I know many brides chasing 4 bridesmaids in a party of 6 to get them to order their dresses. How will you feel when you are chasing 10 girls to get them to order their dresses? I have probably an equal number of people I’d like to include in my bridal party – best friends from growing up, college roommates, lots of very close cousins that are like siblings, friends from grad school and adulthood, but I know realistically its just not an option. The people around you will understand that you just can not include everyone. And i agree that being in a bridal party loses its specialness when it seems like half of your wedding guests are in the bridal party. That being said, you have already asked these people and seem to have it under control. You must believe for some reason its a too large wedding party or you wouldn’t have asked, but there isn’t much you can do about it now.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would be going crazy, and kudos to you for having the patience to do this. I am having a Maid/Matron of Honor and noone else. Fiance is having a best man and no grooms men, but our wedding will be less than 30 people. Sounds like you are having a ton of guests, a big family to include, and lots of friends. Since you have such a big family, it is great that you are trying to give everyone a part. I say go for it – you are having a lot of guests, so I think you can pull off a big bridal party.

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper

I’ve never been fan of large wedding parties. For my own, no more than 3 on my side (MOH, 2BM) My FH only wants his brother, but may add 2Groomsmen. And posssibly a ring bearer. To me thats more than enough. But this is you wedding, so do you.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have 4 maid of honors, 3 bridesmaids, a flower girl and eight guys as well. It may seem like alot but all of the pictures I have seen by my photographer had about the same amount.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s your wedding hun, do what makes YOU happy.

I, too, am being criticized for the size of my bridal party by EVERYONE, including my parents and our Catholic priest LOL.  But, they all say it’s my final choice.  And, they all say that they won’t ALL end up there that day (someone will back out, if not a few people).

Right now, we have 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, 7 Bridesmaids, 2 junior bridesmaids and 3 flower girls on the female side.  On the male side, 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man, 7 groomsmen, 1 junior groomsman and a ring bearer.  Including the bride and groom, we have 25 people.

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