(Closed) Is my wedding planner insane?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

it sounds like you need a new planner and she needs a new online review. she sounds AWFUL

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Um, she’s insane.  My band & flowers were each 10% of my total budget (20% total).  

Post # 34
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m in the heart of DC, and my florist is not even close to what you’re paying.  That’s insane.  The highest quote I received (which was outlandishly high) wasn’t even as high as what they quoted you.  I’m not having a band so I can’t speak to that, but it sounds ridiuclously high…

Ask for a full budget with every little detail written out.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know where you live, but those are exactly the prices I am paying for my band and florist. It definitely depends on where you live. 

It also depends on the quality of vendors. We chose a pretty well known, 8-piece band in our area and they will also be doing the ceremony and cocktail hour. In addition, they have a DJ who will take over when the band needs a break. 

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissMeowMeow:  It depends on what flowers you want. My mother is a florist and it depends on the type of flowers, are they in season, and who many you will need. As far as the music, I think that is way to high. As a former wedding planner, make sure you get eveything broken down and you talk to the vendors directly.

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

$6,500 is insane and I live in a pretty pricey area (Albany region). Bands up here usually cost 7,000-10,000.

There are tons of budget breakdowns here on the bee describing how much brides spend on certain things within your budget. For example, my budget is $23,500 and I am only spending $1,100 on flowers! However I am just spray painting hydrangeas and doing simple garden rose bouquets… but there are 14 in my bridal party!!

She’s probably trying to make everything fancy and high end for you?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That sounds very high! Make sure you save a large chunk for your dress, photography and food & wine as they are really important items usually! You could have a DJ and save money and flowers don’t need to be that expensive.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissMeowMeow:  I f you will email me what flowers you want and how many you require I will check with my mom to see what she thinks and  maybe I can help you with some fab ideas instead. I help my mom with wedding flowers and this is my second wedding, so I will be happy to help. If you want.

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

She is crazy. There is no way that is all fititng. 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MissMeowMeow:  does seem high to me too!! i know bands are always more expensive than a dj but still!!

i had smoe problems with my wedding planner too. so i directlty contacted  some vendors, then prensented her with the options “___ company can do all the flowers for X price, which is 1/3 price you are offering. i suggest we go with them, and in terms of them you can do day of co-ordinating”

problem with that is it means you are doing more work. but i was paying a fee for her services and i reckon she was amking a big markup on every single vendor. so i ended up finding my own haha

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Mrsluckywife:  I agree–I think the bulk of the budget should be for your food/beverages, dress, and photography/videography.  Live bands are nice but they are soo expensive 🙁  I had about the same budget as the OP and spent $400 on a string quartet to play during the ceremony, $1000 on a DJ for the reception, and about $2k on flowers for a wedding with 150 people, and I wouldn’t have wanted to take away from any other aspects of my wedding in order to spend more on music/flowers.

I personally would tell the wedding planner that I didn’t need her services anymore, since it sounds like she is unreasonable and probably just looking for a little $$ kickback from the band/flower vendors.  Her job as a wedding planner is to make the bride/groom happy and relaxed, and you guys pay her to do that–so it sounds like she’s just being sneaky trying to get more money out of you.

Post # 43
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

those prices sound “right” to me and are comparable to what we’re paying, however our budget is much much higher…

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

What part of the $28k is her fee?  I am curious as to what she gets paid.  And yes, those numbers sound high for that budget!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

also, no decent wedding planner should have to ask you for an extra 10k.

if you have champagne tastes but a beer pocket, i can understand a weeding planner saying ‘ok realistically, if you have this much money you arent going to be able to have X Y and Z. here is a suitable alternative” not “well find an extra 10k and have what you want”

i dont like people being blase with money. i actually didnt choose a venue as the lady there kept saying things like ‘oh its *only* a few thousand for this. and a few thousand for that”. like money was nothing. it irked me

before talking to your wedding planner, id get an estimate of things ike photography and other expenses and do a rough budget,. then, you can say “ok well i have  x dollars for flowers. work with it”

 

Post # 46
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Newbee

well I AM a professional wedding planner so let me just say… no.

A wedding professional should always include price as the most important guideline, and while $6,000 or even $15,000 is considered “normal” in the indusry for a floral budget, this is not being respectful of your financial needs.

Unless the band and flowers were expressed as a top priority, then this planner has got some explaining to do.

With a budget of $28,000 (in a non-metropolitan area and if the honeymoon is a seperate expense) I would estimate no more than $4,000 for flowers and $2,000 for a band/DJ. With the numbers you proveded she is leaving very little room for paper products, decor, rentals, catering, and a dress. Catering is a HUGE expense – alcohol, appetizers, salad, main course, and dessert for 100 people can really add up.

Have her give you a cost breakdown that shows how everything will fit before you commit to ANY of these costs or write any checks. You may have a nasty surprise like only $100 set aside for a dress – or no money for the rings. Make sure you let her know what your priorities are. She may not know that you have your heart set on a $6,000 photographer, or Vera Wang dress.

Best of luck! With your budget you should have no trouble planning a fantastic event and not breaking the bank.

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