(Closed) Is my wedding planner insane?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

9k FOR A BAND? WTF.  $6.5k should get you a ridiculous amount of flowers…which is great if that’s what you’re going for!

 

But 9k for a band is INSANE. My band costs $2500, which is low. The average band should cost around $5k!

 

Post # 48
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@nicenuptials:  +1

She’s not respecting your budget, I would fire her

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No way!!  On theknot.com, they have a budget calculator, and for a $40K wedding, the budget for flowers is only $3200.  I can tell you right now my flowers won’t even be that much!  I’m not sure about the bands, but the flowers are almost certainly wrong.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee

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@lolo0403:  lol…don’t ya love autocorrect.This made me LOL

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Our budget was about $30k.  Our flowers were about $2100.  I can definitely see how you could get to $6k+ depending on intricacy and/or flower choices but you absolutely can do it for less than that.  Especially if flowers aren’t a top priority for you.

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

WOW. That’s crazy, and either she doesn’t have an idea in the world what she is doing, or she is being unethical. My budget is $16k. (Which, if you take the international flights and honeymoons out of your budget, and the fact that I am having fewer people, probably makes our per person cost about the same).

My flower budget is $750.My entertainment budget is about $1600. The most expensive line item, at ~$5k, is going to be catering.

As PP said, you have to think about all the little costs. What about alterations? What about postage, cost of an officiant, alcohol, wedding party gifts, tips, linens, cake, hair, makeup, etc etc etc? I just don’t see how that will be at all possible if you’ve sunk that much money into two things that, in the grand scheme of things, can be altered up or down significantly without much effect on the guests’ experience. It’s not worth feeding them rubber chicken or Dominos Hot and Ready just to have a ton of flowers. Really fancy arrangements will look silly with plastic chairs, anyway.

I’d fire her.

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes.  She is insane and trying to take advantage of you. Trust your gut.  Walk away and find someone more reasonable.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah we are having fairly simple flowers in NYC and paying $1200, she is a friendor but she said that without the discount it wouldn’t be more than $1500-1600. I don’t have a bridal party either and we have 15 tables plus some other incidental flowers. I would say no more than $2000 for what you are looking for.

Post # 56
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846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

9K for a band? that’s almost my entire wedding budget. totally insane!

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My budget is double yours and I am spending under $2000 for flowers and $7000 for a band (my dad insisted on booking this particular band. I was fine with a DJ!). WAY too high! Good luck. 

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eh… So, for 6.5 k I’ll pay our honeymoon to France (2.5 k), our wedding bands (2.2 k), our photography (1 k) and all our flowers and decorations (860). Meanwhile – you get stuff that wilts and get thrown in the garbage within a week. Yes, I would be upset. I would also pretty much decide that I wouldn’t need a wedding planner.

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well, my wedding is costing a little less than yours, but my flowers and dj are much much less than that. However, we’ve “splurged” on a few other things (like photography and videography) so maybe they are your splurge things…

But I would definitely ask for a full budget breakdown to make sure you can fit everything in!

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would suggest looking online at the budget planners and doing your own budget. Then dictate that budget to her. I think we’re spending less than 10% of the total budget on flowers, and about 5% on music (but we are spending a lot on food/venue). Figure out the numbers yourself, then keep on her to make sure she sticks to them. It’s a shame you have to do this, but it might be what you have to do to keep her from wrecking it. If you were local to the area I’d probably recommend you ditch her, but it sounds like you’re stuck with her.

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Half of your budget should be food, alcohol, and reception stuff, not flowers and a band. 

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