Post # 1
My OH and I had originally planned to elope (which broke my mum’s heart). Since then, a close friend’s mum died and it altered my perspective a little. We decided to have a very small wedding instead – strictly our nearest and dearest. We didn’t want to spend our engagement arguing over cheesecakes or end up spending a lot of money we didn’t have. I also don’t deal with stress very well and suffer with awful anxiety (the thought of 100s of people staring at me all day makes me wanna wheeze).
Anyway! I’ve just finished my guest list and there are 36 people on it (not including us). Which, I was fine with. Like I said, I really want something intimate and laid back. However, I’ve seen a lot of the ladies on here with guest lists of 300+, and although I know I’ve said that I don’t want extravagant, do you think 36 is gonna be awkwardly small?
Thank you 🙂
Post # 2
Of course not! Small weddings are lovely, and you get so much time with each person.
Post # 3
I think it will be lovley! We are inviting 125 but I’m hoping for 80! I’d be happy with 30-50 too. Really it will be amazing and you sound like you made a great choice for your family.
Post # 4
The only way a wedding could be too small is if there was less than two people present 😉
There is no right or wrong size and entirely depends on you and your fiancé.
Post # 5
No such thing as too small in my opinion. We were planning to elope as well, and as you can guess our parents were not overly thrilled by the idea but they were supportive of our decision. We were going to elope in another country and do a “weddingmoon” but the paperwork was overly complicated so we decided we might as well do that here before we go. Where I live, you can’t go the courthouse and just sign the papers so I convinced my fiance that if we have to do a small ceremony with a Justice of the Peace anyways, we should invite our families and he agreed.
So now we are having our wedding in the backyard of his parent’s house with a grand total of 14 guests and everyone is happy! I’m sure there will be people who might be upset they weren’t invited, but at the end of the day it’s about what the two of you want to do and what will make you happy, and it’s not worth the stress, anxiety and potential debt to plan a big thing if that’s not what makes you happy.
Post # 6
36 is awesome. 300 makes me wanna run for the hills. We’re inviting 100. Realistically aboit 75 will show up as it is Out of Town for pretty much everyone.
Post # 7
It will be a beautiful intimate wedding. You will have time to actually enjoy your wedding and your guests.
Post # 8
Definitely not! We have approximately 12 people coming. I also wanted to elope but my mum cracked the sads, so super-small was the compromise.
Post # 9
We we about 50 coming and the vast majority is family. I only wanted people that matter to come and that’s exactly what we have.
Don’t sweat it 🙂
Post # 10
Nope. I recently attended a fantastic wedding with 15 guests. Intimate, awesome, elegant perfection!
Post # 11
Nope. I’m only sending out 14 invites, so assuming everyone comes and all but 2 bring an additional person that will be 28 including us, but there’s always someone who doesn’t come so I’m planning for 30, but expecting 20-25.
Post # 12
Sounds like a dream to me!
Post # 13
Not small at all, I don’t like being the center of attention so knowing that a ton of people will be looking at me a lot freaks me out as well. Ours will be our parents, siblings, and a handful of friends.
Post # 14
I think that sounds nice.
Mine will be around 80, which is a lot still, but small considering the size of his family. I wanted to look out and see only people I knew.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I’ve invited 36 guests as well. I think it’s the perfect amount and I’m really looking forward to having a smaller wedding day.