(Closed) Is my wedding too small?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
5145 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

We had 16 guests. Our “threshhold” was people we were genuinely close too, whether related or not. We both have big families, and many were not invited…and no one told us they had an issue with it. It was perfect for us.

A friend of ours had 4 guests. 2 parents, 2 friends. It was perfect for them.

Post # 17
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Our guest list will be the same amount as yours, for the same reasons too. It won’t be “awkwardly small”, it will be perfectly intimate.

Post # 18
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

honestly? that sounds perfect to me 🙂  we had 60 people, which wasn’t too big, but I would have loved slightly less people… about 10 left early (VERY hot day, and they had babies at home who wouldn’t sleep or were elderly and not coping) and then the numbers seemed more managable. I didn’t get to talk to everyone even with such a small number!

Post # 19
6798 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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rachael24 :  that is exactly how many people were at my wedding (selves included, though we invited about double).  It was perfect and I wouldn’t change a thing.  You really get to spend time with people and enjoy your day when you don’t have to run from one guest to the next to make sure you didn’t miss someone, no time for eating or otherwise enjoying yourself.  Have a great time and don’t worry if you’re inviting ‘enough’ or not.  There are no rules! (unless you’re leaving out a spouse or something)

Post # 20
914 posts
Busy bee

We invited 100 and got about 55 (OOT for everyone but us). It was wonderful. Not too small at all. 

Post # 21
7881 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Sounds great. You’ll personally know every guest well, and that’s a neat thing. 

Post # 22
264 posts
Helper bee

Doesn’t sound too small to me! I’m a huge fan of smaller, intimate weddings! 

Post # 23
655 posts
Busy bee

I counted up the people on my invite list who told me they would actually come out, and it’s 40 people plus 4 kids. 


I’ve been worried about the same thing but I think it will be fine. I’m thinking about it more like a hangout time than a wedding– but in beautiful formal attire. I’ve been to bars with relatively large groups of people before and had so much fun, we talked all night and laughed and laughed– something I don’t do a large weddings. 


I may provide lawn games and other board games in a lounge area for those who don’t dance (almost everyone). Not sure yet.

Post # 24
481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it’ll be perfect. My original guest count was 40 but now it might be closer to 50-60 because I didn’t realize how many aunts and uncles he has. More time with guests and much cheaper! 

Post # 25
3437 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

It sounds lovely. We’ll have 30-40 guests. Strictly family and our closest friends. We both agreed a more intimate and casual event was preferable. Looking forward to having a stress free day full of laughter with our loved ones.

Post # 26
2342 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We had less than half your numbers and it was a brilliant day!

Post # 27
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - The George, Christchurch

I have 41 on my guest list and that includes the bride and groom. 

i would love to have more, but my SO would prefer just the 2 of us, so i chose 41 based in the fact the minimum number of people is 40 (below that and you have a surcharge). 

small and intimate means you can spend lots of time with your guests, and not feel rushed to see everyone. 

Everyone i have spoken to about the size of my guest list vs theirs, they always say they wish they could have had less. 


Post # 28
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We are inviting 95 and that’s freaking me out.  <40 would be amazing.

Post # 29
1546 posts
Bumble bee

We had 40 adults and 4 babies and it was great. It still felt big enough but it made sure we knew and loved everyone there. Most our guests were family so pretty much everyone knew each other which made it feel more of an intimate celebration. 

Post # 30
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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rachael24 :  no way!! Mine was 30 including us, and it felt big! Even then I couldn’t spend enough time with all my favourite people because the day went so fast. That marriage didn’t work out, but if I could do it again I would want small or to elope in all honesty. 

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