(Closed) Is no receving line really OK?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

LOL @ Mgray @ being “Totsied”!!! I hate old lady perfume….

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m eating dinner, not doing it, dancing, having cake, and doing pictures after the ceremony. I guess I’m of the mind what happens happens and that’s how it’ll be.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We also didn’t want a receiving line, but our cocktail hour was in another room and people just automatically lined up in a straight line to come in and waited to greet us.  So even though we tried to avoid it, it still happened.

As for table toasting, we also did that and didn’t miss any dinner. we had all our speeches inbetween the courses and by dessert we did our thank you speech and started toasting table to table.  I think the key to making it good too is to keep it shortish and to keep moving from table to table.  you’ll have more time to talk later to your guests also!

Post # 21
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Helper bee

We are just visiting with every table. No recieving line for us. I HATE going through a recieving line at other peoples weddings so I would really hate having one at ours. I think as long as you mingle its ok. Plus, like you said, it takes up too much time.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally, anytime I’ve been a guest, the receiving line has been awkward, since locally the Wedding Party is in the line as well. Anytime I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a receiving line it has been awkward, even if half the people were my own aunts & uncles then it’s like “hey! I know you! I’ll talk to you less awkwardly later!”

I think it is totally fine to skip it if you plan on visiting the guests at their tables later.

I’m skipping it.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

We didn’t do a recieving line and PLANNED to go visit all the tables.  Unfortunately, we got about half-way through when something distracted us (still can’t remember what it was but I think it had something to do with the rain/food service) and didn’t get a chance to visit with the other half.  Luckily, it was mostly our friends whom we saw a bunch throughout the weekend anyways but there were a few tables of Mr TM’s family/family friends that I feel horribly that we didn’t get to say hello to.

Moral of the story: It’s fine to have a recieving line but make sure you get to every table!

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

We’re having a fairly small wedding (approx 50 guests) and aren’t doing a receiving line.  We plan on visiting each table during the reception.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee

This may sound dumb… but what really is table toasting. I’ve never heard of this. Do you just go to each table pour them a glass of champagne and toast to them? Is this as simple as it sounds?

I have only really ever seen receiving lines and once in a great while the bride and groom visit each table. Generally the bride and groom just attempt to visit with each person throughout the night. Which seems to be very overwhelming if you are having a larger wedding.

Also, as a guest if the bride and groom do not reach you are you upset by this or doesn’t it bother you?

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We didn’t have a receiving line (church would not allow it) so we greeted everyone at the reception- either at the dinner tables or just around.

We had a buffet, which helped give us time to eat in another room while the guests go through the line. By the time people started to get seated, we were greeting people.

Worked out great.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am not having a receiving line. However, we are having over 200 guests and there’s no way I’m not having dinner LOL. I’m assuming that our table would be served first and we could quickly eat and then visit tables. I have a feeling we’ll be doing that all night in between dancing and stuff.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m a photographer and I haven’t seen a receiving line in over a year…. so, Yes, it’s OK 😉 Just make rounds and visit tables and say hello to people.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We plan to do a faux receiving line at the end of the ceremony.  Our ceremony venue has two large aisles that both end at a set of double doors to the outside and where we plan to make our grand exit.  We plan to do the recessional and then just stand at the back doors.  We’ll greet folks as they exit.  With 250 of our 300 expected to show there’s no way we could expect to visit every table without getting distracted halfway through.  We’re not having parents or bridal party as part of the receiving line.  Just my then husband and I, so hopefully it’ll go somewhat smoothly.  Then we’ll leave through the same doors to lots of bubble blowing guests. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it’s totally fine to not do a receiving line as long as you plan on personally seeing and greeting each of your guests sometime during the night.  Table visits are a great way to do this (and that’s what we’re doing), but remember that it will take a big chunk of your dinner time.  I’m just not a fan of receiving lines b/c I always feel rushed w/ the bride and groom, and also am forced to make some uncomfortable conversation with their parents who I may or may not have ever met before.  I see how receiving lines can be necessary for large weddings though where table visits would take way too long.

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

I’ve been to 12 weddings, and I have never seen a receiving line. Yes, it’s ok to skip it!

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