(Closed) Is not going well…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

((hugs))

sorry you’re feeling so stressed; it tough to plan a wedding at all, let alone in another country and another language.  do you maybe have a bilingual friend who’d be willing to help?  to go over the ceremony, teach you key wedding words/phrases, and maybe even make/sit in on a few phone calls with vendors?  feel free to post your color ideas; maybe we can help find pictures/inspiration boards that tie everything together. also, i’m sure your mother will love your dress when she sees you in it on your big day.  maybe she just has trouble expressing herself, or doesn’t see the big picture yet.  at this point, try and delegate anything you can/are willing to.  even if your family isn’t volunteering to do more than shuttle you around, if you ask them to do a specific project/task, i’m sure they’ll step up.  good luck!

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: February 2012

It seems to me you’re going through what most brides experience at some point or another: being stuck between what you want and what those around you may think is best. I have allowed myself to be there so many times through the last year and with seven weeks until our wedding, if I could change one thing about our engagement, it would be to get those hours, days, weeks back. Like you, I was very concerned with what others would think/say/want (there’s no rule book to a wedding – the options are totally overwhelming!) In the end, it is hard, but you have to accept that no one cares about ANY part of your wedding more than you and your Fiance do. That’s scary, but it’s also a good prep for your life together, right? Freedom! 

It will all work out, really. I still haven’t 100% decided on colors (to use yellow with the navy and green or to not?) – it’s actually been a blessing for our florist! Do what you like and when something makes you cry, put it away, talk to someone who listens and come back to it when you’re ready. Somehow, it all will get done and you’ll be stronger for the tears. 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Everything is going to be FINE!! *Breathe*

BTW- your dress is droolworthy and so so beautiful!!

Post # 7
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68 posts
Worker bee

I am in Malaysia and my fiance is in the US. He’s coming here in June to help plan the wedding which will take place in July here in Malaysia. Most of the stuff, I’d have to do it on my own, with the help of my mom and sisters. My fiance will help of course, but we decided he can plan the honeymoon and do the heavylifting once he is here. 

I haven’t done anything except got his suit tailored. I am freaking out and worried all our plans will not work out and that the day will end up being terrible.

BUT at the same time I am confident and know that things will be okay. I am marrying this person I love and soon we will be able to have our lives together, no longer living 12000 miles away from each other.

Just talk to someone you trust and tell your fiance how you feel. Maybe he can help more or he just doesn’t realise how stressed out you are. My fiance sometimes does that; he thinks it’s not a big deal and I am just making a big deal out of nothing (most times its true hehe) usually in our moments of stress, we don’t realise that a problem can be settled and that things will be okay.

Choose a colour that both of you like. Stick to it. Focus on one thing at a time. I am very indecisive and am always changing my mind but this time, we are gonna have to change that since it won’t help and will just make me freak out more!

Take a huge deep breath and calm down. It will be okay. hugs from malaysia!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all… B-R-E-A-T-H-E !!!!! Many brides get stressed while planning their wedding (Lord knows I did). There are so many choices for everything. It’s normal to question or second guess any choices, your invitations, the dress, the food, etc but know, for as much and you might go back and forth you DO have to make a final decision on them.

Post pictures of your color scheme, your dress and anything else you may need unbiased opinions on, that’s what we’re here for. Unfortunately I can’t help you with the spanish issue, all I know is “¿Dónde está el baño?”. Haha!!! Don’t worry about talking to your guests in spanish, they’re there for you and your husband, they care about you two. If you at least try they’ll appreciate that and love you even more.

You’ll never be able to please anyone at anytime. If you and your Fiance love it and want it (anything), it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you want. It won’t look ridiculous if you take your time, ask for imput and then make a decision. It will only look ridiculous if you rush or make quick decisions without thinking it through.

Don’t worry, the stress will be gone the day is over. You and your husband will have beautiful pictures to look at for years to come and you’ll have a new life to begin.

You said you’re getting married in 8 months? Isn’t January 2012 this month? I’m a bit confused.

 

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