Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
We are thinking of including just our phone and email for guests to RSVP. It’s a relatively formal, summer evening but kind of non-traditional wedding (not a BBQ or anything). We “know” our 120 guests well. We are not necessarily on a super tight budget but have heard people in general do not send the RSVP’s back. We want to be eco-friendly as well as make it easy for people to respond.
Is not including an response card considered “cheap” and “not classy”? My Maid/Matron of Honor says yes.
note: we are thinking of creating a sepate email “[email protected]” cute right?
Post # 3
I say it’s totally fine. We set up a website for RSVP and didn’t use cards. Who sends mail these days anywhere?
Post # 4
I think its totally fine, I will be doing phonecalls and rsvping via wedding website.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Alwayssunny – EXACTLY! I even forgot to send it in for my best friend’s wedding
Post # 6
If you expect an RSVP, a RSVP card is expected. I would totally RSVP to a wedding via email (In fact, I have done this) but Grandma might not feel the same way. I’d say in another 20 years this would probably be fine, but right now we still have a lot of people among us that don’t use the internet.
If you are more concerned about it being eco-friendly, print them on recycled paper (maybe even notecard style so you don’t need an envelope) and recycle it when you recieve them.
Post # 7
I would expect a lot more people to not RSVP at all this way. It might be a lot more grief than what it’s worth.
Post # 8
I’m biased because we totally didn’t do response cards – but I thought it worked out brilliantly well, and we didn’t have to worry about extra postage, or them getting lost in the mail, or people not sending them back. We did all RSVPs online and it was perfect! Plus, then we got everyone’s email addresses and were able to communicate wedding day logistics with them in the final week before our wedding day. 🙂
Post # 9
You have to have a response card. What about the people without email? Yes, they exist- my dad is only 50 and I know many people his age including him that do not have email. I guess I would see it as rude…
Post # 10
I think it’s a great idea! Easy way to cut costs, be more environmentally friendly, etc. I would suggest also including a phone number for those who don’t have email or don’t like using email (although my 80 year old grandparents have email, so I think they are few and far betwee these days)
Post # 11
We did rsvps on our website. I knew all of our guests are tech savvy, so it wasn’t a problem. We only had 2 families come that didn’t use the site (they told my parents they were coming), which was a much better record than my sister’s wedding, where she had rsvp cards.
Post # 12
I think it’s totally fine not to include response cards, but I’d think it was a less formal occasion.
Post # 13
I say it’s fine. We did rsvps through our wedding website and it turned out awesome.
Post # 14
I would just make sure your RSVP email address is easy to spell so there are few errors when people type in the address wrong.
Post # 15
You can forego response cards, but I imagine you’ll end up having to spend a lot more time chasing down non-responders. Look how many people don’t RSVP when they get a response card and a pre-stamped envelope. Now if you make it more work for them to RSVP, a lot of people may not do it.
Post # 16
Well, Emily Post notes that it’s perfectly acceptable to request your RSVPs through email or telephone, so that’s good enough for me. For those who say some people don’t have email, I’m certain they are familiar with use of the telephone (and my 84 year old grandmother uses email, so age is certainly not an indicator of someone’s likelihood or ability to respond on the internet).
ETA – And Miss Manners insists that responses cards “were never correct.” So, you’ll be in good company.