- 11 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I got really, really sad while reading Miss Cloud’s post about her Bridesmaid or Best Man backing out, because i remembered that none of whom i thought were my best friends from college showed up to our wedding two months ago.
Our wedding was a kinda Destination Wedding, in my hometown 9 hours away from where we live. We hand-delivered each invitation, so they knew our wedding date and they can’t blame postal service. Since we left college, we constantly hung out, talked by phone, went to lunch together and one of them even went with me to pick up my wedding dress. They knew how important was for me that they could make it to the wedding. My friends assured me they will, i blocked hotel rooms… but on the wedding day none of them showed up, they didn’t even called me or send me a txt msg.
We went to our honeymoon, got back to work and 15 days after the wedding, on gchat, one of them finally talked to me and said she ‘had a terrible weekend at work’. On gchat, for God’s sake! I was mad and only answered her ‘OK, don’t worry’. But sadly, I found out later via Facebook that she went on a trip to an island with her roommate among other people, on my wedding day.
My 2 other friends haven’t even called me, send me an email, nothing! basically they just dissapeared from gchat, fb, msn messenger. One of this friends was my ‘madrina’ of cake, that was her wedding gift for us in advance, and we thanked her for her generosity, but i haven’t heard from her in two months.
Most days i try not to think of what happened, but when i do, i just can’t help crying because it hurts so much, because i truly love them, they were my bff, my partners in crime on college, and i can’t help but feel that i lost this friends and doesn’t even know why.
If they had financial problems, why they didn’t tell us? why one of them basically lied to me? why they haven’t called us to explain what happened? my hubby told me once he saw me crying for this that ‘they don’t deserve my tears, that those aren’t real friends and i should forgot what happened, because if they really appreciate me, someday they’ll call’.
what should i do? i d/k if i should keep waiting or make the first move…
p.d. please, forgive me if i’m not clear, my english is simply not so good.