- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’m going anonymous for this one because I feel shallow and I know others will think I’m being ridiculous but I just really wanted to get it out.
I’ve known FI for over 5 years, he’s always had medium length (“flowy” to best put it) to longer (chin length) hair. I know most people would think hippie or rock star, but it really is nice and suits him extremely well.
Last week he decided to get his haircut (after not cutting it for almost a year). Bees, it’s SO short! The lady cut it at least 2-3 inches shorter, it’s probably only 1/2 inch, if that in the back and sides (completely tapered and she cut it up too far in the back, so he has a weird line going on), and a bit longer on top. It really does not suit his face shape and makes some facial features look out of place. When he puts a hat on, he’s back to his handsome self, but then when he takes it off, I HATE it. It’s so incredibly frustrating to feel that way over hair.
I feel so horrible saying this, but I physically am not attracted to him with short hair! He’s only had really short hair once before when I’ve known him, and this is when he let a friend cut his hair with kitchen scissors (bad idea). He really looks like a completely different person.
Obviously hair grows back but I think my bigger issue is that I’m not in any way physically attracted to him when his hair is short, which worries me. I love him regardless, I would never end things with him over a haircut, but I’ve been making excusing everytime we try to be intimate.
He knows I don’t like his hair short, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings so I haven’t told him that I physically don’t feel attracted to him like that. I really don’t know if I should tell him this.
Maybe it’s because I work in the beauty industry, so hair has always been my favourite feature on a guy and the first thing I notice.
We were going to take engagement photos soon, but I’m just upset and hate that I’m being so shallow about this. Can any other bees relate at all? I know it’s not and shouldn’t be a priority, but is physical attraction important?