Post # 1
Had to make a new name for this post, I’m afraid the person in question might be on here… seems to be everywhere!
Sometimes internet stalking bites you in the butt! 🙂 Sigh. my fiance’s ex girlfriend was at an open house for my wedding venue recently, so I wondered if she and her fiance were using the same venue. They got engaged after us. I searched on my wedding site server(it’s not the knot) to see if she is in fact using the same venue. I admit– i was stalking.
She not only is using our venue, with the same date 3 months later… she has literally cut and paste almost everything i have written from MY wedding web site onto hers! I am a journalist… I recognize these things. Changing one word here or there does not keep you from getting an F on your paper!
She’s added the same linked pages and renamed the links the same. I counted like 20 exact copies of things I wrote.
We worked on our site for a long time. I guess it’s flattering, but I feel sorry for her fiance. I wonder if he knows she’s stalking her ex boyfriend’s fiance’s web site. :-/
Wishing I hadn’t found that… now I’m mad at her. I’ve met her before, she’s a nice girl but this is not cool.
What are your thoughts? Should I do anything?
Post # 3
is there a way you could point out the similarities between the websites without directly coming out and saying it? it doesnt sound like you have much contact with her so probably not, right.
well, you could say something because it doesnt seem like there’s anything riding on your getting along with her, so who cares?
on the other hand, you probably dont have the same guests, and nobody except you will probably even notice the similarities…so i guess you could just be the bigger person and let it go…although i really couldnt keep it from my fiance if i were in your position!! lol id have to tell SOMEBODY!
no matter what she could deny it or turn it around and say you copied her or whatever… you dont want to end up looking like you care about what she does…thats not a whole lot better than her stalking your website.
that’s a tough one 🙁
Post # 4
This would frustrate me a good, good bit. Especially considering the fact that she’s your fiance’s ex (unless the relationship there is ok). Is he close enough to mention anything to her? Could you maybe bring it up slyly, like a comment on her page about “how many things are so similar, isn’t that crazy?” Maybe it would let her know you aren’t in the dark.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I would actually not say or do anything. Take it as a complement that she copied you, and then try to let it go. Chances are you and she are the only ones who will ever know.
Post # 6
Thanks for the comments. We don’t ever talk, so it’d be weird if I contacted her. The only person who would notice would be her matron of honor– she’s friends with both of us and she’s coming to our wedding. We got engaged and had completely set up the site before they even got engaged tho– good for us. 🙂 and we’re getting married first.
lol i can’t tell my fiance on this one! if i told him it would totally call me out as a stalker. 🙂 I did tell one of my bridesmaids though, that made me feel better. And posting here! He doesn’t keep in contact with her much– he broke up with her and he has tried to keep his distance– its been 3 years. I’m a little creeped out that she now knows all the details of our “story” and she’s copied the things I said about my mom on her site to her mom, etc.
I feel like posting on her guest book and telling her how much I love her heartfelt words that she composed on her site. but that’s just mean. 😛
Post # 7
i would not have the restraint – i would have called the FH immediately about it, haha. Then… filed a restraining order. That girl sounds nuts, copying your words to your mom.
Post # 8
Wait? He would think YOU are the stalker when she literally COPIED your wedding page? I hope not. She does sound a bit nutty. I would not contact her either.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
That’s pretty creepy. I’d leave it alone. It sounds like she has issues, and it’s not like there’s going to be much crossover between weddings, right?
Post # 10
That’s creepy. Leave it alone….
Post # 11
Does your Fiance know that you’re stalking his ex’s website? Are you not basically doing what she’s doing minus the plagerism? You stalk her and then you want to get upset because she copied you? All seems a little silly to me. No offense.
So what if she copied your style? Sounds like she’s likely not creative and, being a journalist and all, you probably write more eloquently than anything she could come up with. Seems like other bees here often “borrow” language from other’s invitations, save the dates, etc., so I guess I just don’t get why you’re so upset.
Leave it alone and get on with your wedding planning. There are much bigger things in life to be upset about. This ain’t one of them.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Yeah, CurlyDreamer, we lift wording from other brides, but hopefully not our ex-boyfriend’s new fiancee’s wording. 🙂 It certainly is creepster.
That said, I still think that calling her on it to anyone other than the friend you’ve already told can lead to no good and lots of drama. “This can only end in tears.” 😉
Post # 13
Thanks for the thoughts y’all! I don’t plan to contact her about it. I will most likely just leave it as is. There is no point in confronting her, and really only like one person would even read both sites. It just blows me away that she did that! I was shocked to see her at the open house, but this is definitely more than sharing a venue.
I might tell my fiance, but it might just make him mad at her for doing that, so I might not. He rarely is in contact with her as it is and it seemed like things were fine now that she’s engaged. She’s lost enough– she doesn’t get to be with my guy. I wish her the best with her fiance, but that’s not a good sign if nearly every word she wrote about their wedding came from her ex boyfriend’s wedding site.
craziness! Thanks for tuning in to the drama!
Post # 14
I would let it go and bask in my own smugness since she was the original stalker AND now a plagiarist
Post # 15
Sounds like you have a plan :-). Taking the high road and not mentioning anything is definitely a good idea. It’s too bad she doesn’t have ideas of her own.
Post # 16
It IS creepy, I will say that….the girl’s obviously not creative enough to think of her own magical love words for her web page. I wonder what that says about her and her FI?…hmmmmm =]