(Closed) is plagiarism the sincerest form of flattery?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

is there a way you could point out the similarities between the websites without directly coming out and saying it?  it doesnt sound like you have much contact with her so probably not, right.

well, you could say something because it doesnt seem like there’s anything riding on your getting along with her, so who cares?

on the other hand, you probably dont have the same guests, and nobody except you will probably even notice the similarities…so i guess you could just be the bigger person and let it go…although i really couldnt keep it from my fiance if i were in your position!!  lol id have to tell SOMEBODY!

no matter what she could deny it or turn it around and say you copied her or whatever…  you dont want to end up looking like you care about what she does…thats not a whole lot better than her stalking your website.

that’s a tough one πŸ™

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This would frustrate me a good, good bit. Especially considering the fact that she’s your fiance’s ex (unless the relationship there is ok). Is he close enough to mention anything to her? Could you maybe bring it up slyly, like a comment on her page about “how many things are so similar, isn’t that crazy?” Maybe it would let her know you aren’t in the dark.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I would actually not say or do anything. Take it as a complement that she copied you, and then try to let it go. Chances are you and she are the only ones who will ever know.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i would not have the restraint – i would have called the FH immediately about it, haha.  Then… filed a restraining order.  That girl sounds nuts, copying your words to your mom.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wait? He would think YOU are the stalker when she literally COPIED your wedding page? I hope not. She does sound a bit nutty. I would not contact her either.

 

Post # 9
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11826 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

That’s pretty creepy.  I’d leave it alone.  It sounds like she has issues, and it’s not like there’s going to be much crossover between weddings, right?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s creepy. Leave it alone….

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Does your Fiance know that you’re stalking his ex’s website? Are you not basically doing what she’s doing minus the plagerism? You stalk her and then you want to get upset because she copied you? All seems a little silly to me. No offense.

So what if she copied your style? Sounds like she’s likely not creative and, being a journalist and all, you probably write more eloquently than anything she could come up with. Seems like other bees here often “borrow” language from other’s invitations, save the dates, etc., so I guess I just don’t get why you’re so upset.

Leave it alone and get on with your wedding planning. There are much bigger things in life to be upset about. This ain’t one of them.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Yeah, CurlyDreamer, we lift wording from other brides, but hopefully not our ex-boyfriend’s new fiancee’s wording. πŸ™‚ It certainly is creepster.

That said, I still think that calling her on it to anyone other than the friend you’ve already told can lead to no good and lots of drama. “This can only end in tears.” πŸ˜‰

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would let it go and bask in my own smugness Wink since she was the original stalker AND now a plagiarist

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Sounds like you have a plan :-). Taking the high road and not mentioning anything is definitely a good idea. It’s too bad she doesn’t have ideas of her own.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It IS creepy, I will say that….the girl’s obviously not creative enough to think of her own magical love words for her web page. I wonder what that says about her and her FI?…hmmmmm =]

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